Pen pals ‘2’ best friends

It may sound really weird now but ‘Pen-Pals’ was a thing in the good ol’ days of the 90’s and early 2000’s, and it was actually fun writing letters across states and countries, making friends and eventually hoping to meet them one day, days when mobile phones weren’t the cheapest for everyone to own one, land line phones were still very much in vogue.

I used to write little letters to mum and dad when I was small, but this would have to be ‘My first ever letter’ that actually went out of the house, into a post box and to another address. I wrote pretty long letters, (guess even back then, I had lots to say) as long as my letters were, the more quickly and interesting her replies came back. From our dreams we had in the future to her daily morning walks with her neighbors dog, we shared a lot across letters back and forth. You’d think over a few years, our story could end up making a good script for a Bollywood film, of how boy-n-girl exchange letters, meet after few years, fall in love, get married and live happily ever after.

That’s what Bollywood has taught us over the years, hasn’t it; the Real life of course is much different from the Reel life.

There comes a time in every guy’s life, when he has to make the important decision of whether to choose friendship over love or vice versa, especially with friends of the opposite sex. While some are daring enough to go ahead and chose Love over Friendship, most guys would resort to keeping the real feeling inside and be the best friend they could possibly be to her because telling her you love her, you might lose her all together, let alone love, she wouldn’t even want to be your friend. To think of it, I wonder if that is really the case. Do girls actually behave that way, or is it just the male way of thinking?

It’s been a whole 17 odd years that we’ve been great friends. No, she didn’t Friend Zone me, nor did I take that step to tell her what I felt. There would be times, that I thought, maybe I wanted her to be more than a friend, but the truth was, she was always going to be one of my best friends and even after all these years, she still very much is. Sometimes, two people of the opposite sex can be the best of friends and yet be totally cool with each other, and to think of how even the mention of Love could probably have ruined everything, if thrown in the mix.

While even today, she travels around the globe, following her passion, doing things she loves and on the other side myself, more the home bound, not too far away from family, living the simple-life kind of person.

We sometimes catch up on chat and share memories of the ‘once upon a times’, the letters we used to write, the paths we took n how much life has changed and little else.

I know she can never be too far away, for she has promised to sing a solo (Did I mention, she’s a pretty good singer?) on my wedding day. (talk of an advance booking) 😛😛

I’d probably send her the text of this blog post, I’m sure she’ll have something corny to say about it.

She’s Crystal Coelho crys.jpg and the child in me back then though, she was related to Paulo Coelho (the famous International author) 😛 and I think I actually asked her too 😛

This post takes me down memory lane.. right back to 23rd March 2001 😛 when I received her first letter. I still have it, kept in a safe place.

23 Replies to “Pen pals ‘2’ best friends”

  1. I had a pen pal too.😀 A girl from UK. I don’t remember her name though. I used to send her letters, and pictures of places I recently visited. Once I sent her a photo of me and she was like oh so pretty you look. She sent me her photo later on. She was in her early teens and I was just 9 years old.
    This post brought back memories of my pen pal. 🙂🙂

      1. Yes. 😀 Or may be younger. But not before 10. I remember the photo I sent her. It was from a fairly recent trip to Mysore. (I was 7 then).

        1. What were u doing writing letters at that tender age? 😉😄😄😁

          1. Teacher said write so I wrote. 😛
            Initially I was like 😦😦 but once she replied, it felt good. 🙂 She used to write about her school, family and all, I don’t remember much but it was something different from our indian lifestyle.
            And I was not writing love letters to a boy so 😛😛😛
            Once I got a letter from some guy, from UK. That was the last pen pal letter I recieved. We had someone in school who used to go to England every now and then, so he exchanged those letters for us. That is how I got the boy’s letter.

          2. Cool..’teacher said write so I wrote’ 😂😂😂

          3. 😂😂😂😂 teacher’s fault. She never mentioned pen pal. She said Peter uncle is going to England, Rekha, write a letter so that he can give it to someone there. My first letter was something like this – hi I am Rekha. I am so and so years old. I study in blah blah blah. I ate this for lunch, that for dinner.
            when I got a letter back from someone, she asked me more about India, then the writing thingy went well. I sent her photos of the places I visited, a photo of our garden and all that.

          4. Now who is Peter Uncle? 😛

          5. Peter uncle was some uncle who lived in our school premises. 😛 Many teachers lived in staff quarters in our school campus, not just Peter uncle. When I was in class 8, he stopped coming to India. I don’t know why. But he was nice. 🙂 We were young and seeing a foreigner in school was a thing back then. So we simply used to go near him, say hi, giggle and run away. 😂😂 And he was like oh hellooooo kids.

          6. You know nowadays, what a presence of a foreigner does around kids ryt?

          7. Nope. What does it do? 🤔

          8. I would never trust a young student around a male foreigner, bloody paedophiles..

  2. Beautiful share….liked it

  3. Awwwwww. Such a sweet sweet story you have there Savio. You should have spoken your mind to her. You should not have spent your time in ‘what ifs’. Because if she were your true friend she would have hugged you to the heart and never let it be awkward between you two, even if she turned you down. If shes really a great friend she would have known anyway that you liked her so much. Maybe it isn’t too late.

    1. I always love ‘optimistic Pradita’ ..and besides girls always have a way of knowing things.. don’t they? Glad you liked the post.

      1. I loved it. Optimistic Pradita is a rarity. Listen to her when she’s still around 😜

  4. Awww… that is so cute!! 😍

  5. This is a sweet post, Savio. I never had a pen pal but my aunt and uncle did. My aunt’s was from France and my uncle’s was from Brazil, I think. They used to exchange little gifts in addition to their letters. The girl from France died in an earthquake but I don’t know what happened to my uncle’s pen pal. I think it’s a really cool thing to have a pen pal but now social media has made things too easy.

    1. Social Media has taken the fun out of it..Pen Pals would never work in this era..the first thing they’d do, is check if the person is on FaceBook 🙁

      1. Yes! Exactly. The good old days.

  6. Hi,
    The millenial generation will never know the meaning of pen pals the way we remember it.
    Did you see the movie with Amanda Seyfriend? A letter in a Romeo and Juliet type manner was the plot. Your post reminded me of that.
    Thanks for visiting my blog and liking my new article about vlogging. I came to thank you and introduce myself and found this poignant post.

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