“I, ___, take you, ___, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.”
The above lines are said as marriage vows in front of friends, family and well wishers in a church before the priest & God.
Let’s concentrate on the last 5 words of those lines for a moment:
…until death do us part”
Unless these last 5 words now have a different meaning, I don’t see any reason why marriages are falling apart and that too within the first 5-10 years of married life.
Aren’t all the checks supposed to be done before entering into the sacrament?
What I mean by checks is – In today’s day and age, if you’re getting married, there is most probably a checklist that you will be having and as per that checklist, all the boxes are expected to get ticked. Let’s see a few of those items on the checklist..
~ Bank balance
~ Moderate/Big House
~ un-interfering in-laws (or out-laws)
~ a servant/maid to do the house work
~ a couple of cars and bikes
~ no mistresses or stalker girlfriends hopefully
and of course he should LOVE, Pamper and treat me like a Queen (no harm in thinking)
This is how the mind of a modern woman works – at least for most of them. If a marriage is based on this kind of a foundation-YOU of all people should know, this isn’t even remotely what you can call a marriage.
I currently know of 4 couples, all friends of mine going through various stages of post-marriage-breakup (if I can call it that) ranging from within 2 years to 10 years for various different reasons. Talk of the lavish wedding receptions each one of them has had and the good amount of money thrown on one BIG PARTY, to be at the stage they are at NOW.
Have marriages come down to a checklist? or simply a platform to know how it feels to be married? No one seems to be serious. Marriage has become a casual affair.
Don’t people marry for Love anymore?
It isn’t about “I want to get married” BUT “Am I ready to get married?”
The average lifespan of marriage has definitely come down from what it was. where a 50-60 years was normal in the 70’s and 80’s in comparison to today, where we should be surprised if a couple even touch 25 years together. 50 years seems like a distant dream, of course there would always be that odd couple who dream of growing old together.
Marry for Love and not just for companionship & make your house a HOME and not a convenience store.
…and while I enjoy writing fictional stories on love & marriage, there are people out there actually getting married for real. While you get married only once in your life, make sure you at least make it worthwhile.