Proud to be a woman? Are you?

So yesterday was International Women’s Day. An answer I’ve always wanted to knowzzzz.jpg was, Do women actually feel proud to be women? Do they feel special on a day dedicated especially to them? Or is just like any another day? What’s it to be a woman? I needed answers not because it gives me chance to create another blog post (that too…) but more so because there could be no better topic for men to talk about than ‘women’, well ‘sex’ too… but then I guess in many ways, both of them are related.

As early as 6.30 I started sending out messages to all the girls/women I knew, wishing them on ‘their day’ with the following message…

Happy International Women’s Day, it must be pretty amazing being a woman ryt?

You know how sometimes a simple question like that can spark more than a few lines of a response… some did while others had to be asked an extra question “What does it feel to be a woman?” I must say the replies did make me smile, considering I know so many different kinds of women. While some of them replied in a few words, others went more the paragraph way. Brace yourself to reading some of the answers I got.

The very first of course was a total shocker! I was like 

“I wish I could be a boy, it’s stupid, bullshit to be a woman” – Yes ma’am, I’d like to know more… over a cup of coffee 😝

Another friend of mine… real ballsy character, she has to say “One word.. in India – Oppressed. The very fact that we have a special day to remember us, is saying a lot about the state of women. Not only here. All over the world” – I would say I agree with her.

“I feel proud of being reproduced, feel strong even after being judged, feel happy that we work equally to guys” – signs of the changing woman attitude? Bodes well for the future!

“Being a woman…
Growing up there wasn’t any difference thanks to my upbringing yes except my night outs were thoroughly interviewed b4 getting approved
Dating was fun all d attention
After marriage reality starts to sink in.
Husbands lifestyle friends and family is now mine. And my real family friends take d back seat…
after childbirth (the greatest responsibility of all) husband. Lifestyle. Family take d back seat and the ones on backseat go further. Except for the immediate family… who come back in the front seat to help out.
womens-stagesThere is always a choice but sometimes being a woman it’s best to accept and enjoy the privileges of being a woman…
You’re the ‘go-to’ person for your children just by giving birth to them. Whereas the fathers have to make a real effort to be on par with the mothers. Just the sound of mom’s heartbeat or the breath or even hearing my voice wud pacify my crying babies… what a blessing. And being a woman the amount of physical and mental and emotional strength u have surprises u. – Talk of a woman’s journey, beautifully expressed! I appreciate the time my friend took to type this all out, considering we’re living in such a busy world.

It must be pretty amazing being a woman right? “Not always…! But we have our perks😄” 

“I wouldn’t know if it’s being a woman or being alive. I haven’t experienced being alive as the other gender. It’s amazing being alive though! I’m not for all the gender stereotypes. I think men and women both have their roles to play and both genders have to overcome hurdles. Women don’t do anything great to have a day to celebrate.

Traits should be celebrated instead. Determination day- Share a story or 2 of your friend showing applaudable determination. Wouldn’t that encourage people to get aligned rather than just celebrating women’s day?

There are so many women that feel great on this day just to be women. Such a false sense of satisfaction to nothing achieved. I don’t think these days are planned right at all.😋

  Something to think about I guess. Now that’s my kind of woman! Such strong thoughts. Pity that she’s married already 😝 

“Don’t know Sav.. never been anything else before” – She’s got a point there! 😝🤪😂🤣 What she said next just floored me “If I have to put it in one line I’d say to feel like a woman is to feel every adjective that’s ever written on every language across the world at any given point in time or maybe sometimes at a single point” – I really didn’t know what to say to that.. that is probably the best sentence I’ve read to date, easily!

“Wo+ men combination of the two makes a complete word ..the latter, of course, follows the former …n that’s what being a woman is, let the men literally follow you as an example!

klWoo +man is a complete another example when a man is wooed by you…he should be wooed by a what a rockstar you are in yourself, a spectacular example of simple yet with a great sense of style, enveloping the true virtues n values which in my terms mean fire in heart n sparkle in the eyes ,all set on your goals like the fisheye for lord Arjuna ,that is what the essence of a modern women is in this free country .. where are woes of man are much more than they woo a woman in terms of the personality she carries..a woman can fly but fly as long as she is flying equal to them ..the moment she rises higher, above n over ..the woes begin and the wooing ends there!

Being a women is empowering in itself..
a creator of life ,a nurturer, a boon balancing artist all her life in the ways she juggles with life…she is a true juggler ,we keeping everything safe even when its up in the air she knows she is gonna catch it right there…that’s the fire, that’s the assurance, that’s the confidence, a sense of security, a sense of freedom when things fly high ..yet the balance is the true essence of being a woman” – Well!! that was long but yes, excellent thoughts! I did tell her that I’ll need a day to let this message to sink in.. I still have a few hours left

For me being a woman makes me feel the power . I’ve got control of so many things in life. It makes me feel strong, beautiful and sexy. – You go, girl! That’s short & crisp!

I feel proud to be a woman because a few things come naturally to women as compared to men. Like the power to empathize, the giving nature and a relatively high emotional quotient. Not that men do not have it… but it comes to women more naturally. The biggest blessing of being a woman is able to give birth. This is so unique that no man would ever be able to do it. My advice to women is that do not get into gender fights. No gender is superior or inferior. If you feel women are strong then don’t crave for mercies from men. Secondly.. do not wait for a single day to celebrate womanhood. Celebrate every day. Be good, do good. Pamper urself. Love urself. Every single day!! – Nice. I liked the reference to the men made, well said. Another thing that women possess.. the right words – at the right time. Thank you for answering.

“…well I feel so proud being a woman … to be said its also pretty tough to be a woman”  something I guess, we guys could never even begin to understand.

That was a handful of responses I got to whom I sent out the question to.. thank you, girls/women, for your co-operation, it was wonderful to know your views.

We, men, will never understand what it means to be wooed, whistled or ogled at… and if we look at it at a more superficial level.. as Joey Tribianni puts it across in an episode of friends;

You know what blows my mind? Women can see breasts any time they want. You just look down and there they are. How you get any work done is beyond me. Beyond me too bro!

Mood swings to being the center of attraction, sexy-confident & vulnerable at the same time – wow! Facing pain with a smile on their face. We’d never know how they do it. I’m not sure if men really want to know too… guess we’re happy with the issues we have, that is if we can really call it issues.

As much as it took me a long time to compile this blog post, the longest one I’ve done till date I guess – but with women, things are bound to get extended. I enjoyed putting this together. It was fun. Hope you enjoy reading this, male, female irrespective.

So what did I learn from the little interactions I’ve had with all the above women…? I’m truly blessed to have so many friends who are girls, especially the one’s I’ve mentioned in this post. You women are simply super! …and also I’m happy being a guy, I’d do terrible as a girl – PERIOD!


9 Replies to “Proud to be a woman? Are you?”

  1. A good ode to women on Women’s day! Thank you for quoting me.

    1. theextraaamile says: Reply

      Thank You for being a part.. Aditi

  2. What a post! What a post. I went like- yes, yes… and then yes to that too, and when I read the quote from the lady who said after childbirth, those on the backseat go further away, I was nodding my head vigorously in absolute consent. That is, sadly, what it means to be a woman in India. Even today, even when we are taught by our parents that women are equal, marriage is the one place where you can see nothing but regression. That’s when you come to learn – what we were taught was hogwash and now we have to deal with the reality of this stinking life. Tell me now, why would I still want to be a woman if I had the chance? Maybe a few centuries later I would have been.

    1. theextraaamile says: Reply

      Thank you for this comment, Pradita.
      …and that was supposed to be a rhetoric question at the end right? 😉

      1. Yes, it was but I think it could be the story of my life :-/

        1. theextraaamile says: Reply

          Wow! Some of those answers did really get you thinking…

  3. “Woo +man is a complete another example when a man is wooed by you…he should be wooed by a what a rockstar you are in yourself”….. These lines❤

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