Its wedding season in Goa.. and while the to-be-married-couples & their families, don’t mind spending tons of money on them (after all it is supposed to be a once-in-a-lifetime day) for the rest of the us people, it is par-tayyy time! Free food, drinks & entertainment, and all we have to do is show up [preferably with a gift]
I love weddings…
…seeing two imperfect people coming together, joining hands in front of God, declaring their love for each other… the smiles… the tears, the excitement & nervousness at the same time… the varied emotions running through the couple and their families.
How often does one get to see so many of these things – all at once?
Of course all this is so cool… only when – I’m not the one up there at the altar.
Someday – Yes! Maybe! Till then… there are so many people getting married out there!
I might not have attended every wedding I was invited for.. but for those that I have, they’ve been very special, either the couple was or the caterers were. If both then it was a BONUS.
Things I’ve learned attending weddings:
(a) The wedding is more than “just the couple”. Accepted: You are primarily there because the couple has invited ‘you’ to be part of their big day. While the main focus is on every move the couple makes, it is their family and the guests that actually make the wedding a success, it is supposed to be.
Weddings are not about the frills and fancy, its about the people
(b) A wedding is a great place to meet other married people, Hoping to find your soul mate in a 4 hour wedding reception is highly unlikely. If you do (you’re lucky) and you’re likely to find them outside the rest-room, either entering or exiting.
(c) Little kids in formal attire are just plain adorable (again of course if they’re not your kids) The kids we have always turn out to be the worst behaved in a wedding. If you’re single attending a marriage reception with your family, you’ll end up pulling at least cheeks of two innocent small children. (for the record, children hate that)
(d) The food served at the buffet says a lot about the couple. Believe it or not – good food is remembered much longer than the actual names of the couple’s wedding you ate it at.
(e) It’s really nice to hear the bride and groom express how they feel about each other (after the cutting of the cake.. and any other time [during the reception]) Not everyone can express their true feelings.. but if there’s one day best suited to do so… it is on their wedding day. Of course in the church as well…expressing their vows to each other. Anyone can read lines from a book, but its what comes out from the Heart that touches people the most.
(f) It’s one thing to have wonderful wedding, but it’s more important to have a good marriage. While the wedding is just 1 day… a marriage lasts for a lifetime.
One of the best gifts that God could give us, is the “person” he has chosen for us, to be united with, in Holy Matrimony.