- We need to find it..
- fall in it..
- ..and look for it in that one “Special” Person
Let me tell you that it is all a set of perfect lies –
are nothing but bull.
This whole IDEA of falling IN and OUT of love is a delusional one. It isn’t something you can FALL into (whoever came out with that phrase ‘Falling in Love’ needs a rap up their back side)
Love is a State of Being – Either YOU ARE IT or YOU ARE NOT IT.
The idea that people have of falling in and out of love is nothing but one’s craving for a particular moment, a desire you wish to fulfill ..and of course desire comes no where close to love
You can’t desire somebody and say that you’re in Love – at least that’s what my brain of un-chartered knowledge of love tells me.
It is a GIVE and TAKE ..
- Your Action.. Their Action
- You do this.. they do that
and when that does not happen, can we call it love? naaaahhhh, that’s a transaction!
A lot of people depend on their partners for a sense of belonging, validation and approval and a whole lot of other things, and when they don’t deliver on the way we want them too – where’s the love then? Isn’t that dependency?
When the moment comes of when you “truly” fall in love (as young people call it nowadays) hearts beating for each other and all that jazz, we go about that person seeking his/her love to complete us, fulfill our un-met desires, because after-all we are in love right? Or are we really? Maybe we think we possess them and we mistake that for love?
Until now, we don’t even know what Love is – Do we? We just have ideas of what love may be. It could be when:
- you don’t own the other or seek a kind of control over them in any way and let them be
- you realize your partner isn’t there to meet up to your expectations
- there need not be a condition/purpose/excuse to do something
- you can be yourself, accept for who it is you are in another person’s presence
- the inside matters more than the outside
Of course until you find it all (in someone you will spend the rest of your life with) everything else are imitations of the real deal. The ultimate search of love doesn’t begin when you find ‘The One’ but if you realize, it it something that has always been within you …. all along
So while I still stick to the concept of falling IN and OUT of love is delusional, I do however think the more important thing is for two people to be ‘equally yoked’ – whether the decision of being in a relationship ultimate leads to marriage or not