Parents & Android phones

There can be no better love story, than that of Parents & Android phones

Imagine this scenario; Your parents call you for a Mobile Phone related Emergency (it could be anything from not being able to find a photo to the mobile not responding) and you are busy in another room doing your own thing (important to you) or you could simply be having a shower. And you’re like “What now?” You find yourself giving out instructions, when which followed leads to something else all together. Something like this picture below..

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..and its all our fault.

The next time you’re called for a mobile phone related emergency, DO NOT GIVE INSTRUCTIONS, I repeat do not give instructions – you STOP everything you’re doing and just RUN 

And then there are a few other things that happen quite magically, which can also be put under the category of mobile phone related emergencies, that includes:

(a) The volume control goes from high to low to mute and they end up speaking loud on the phone.. “I cannot hear you, can you speak a little louder..hello.. heLLO..HELLO…” now the whole neighborhood can hear you, not just the person on the other side of the phone #phoneVolumeIssues

(b) Icons disappearing/other icons pop up on the home screen. They cannot find the whatsapp icon.. “my whatsapp is gone” No mom, it isn’t gone.. its there, its just a shortcut. The word ‘shortcut’ does not register in her mind. For NOW she is just happy that whatsapp is back..

(c) “Put the number on the whatsapp side” Request. ..now how does one explain that? A saved contact automatically becomes a whatsapp contact if the subscriber is on the app. But sometimes its easier to just do it for them.

(d) ‘Facebook not responding’.. well!! Facebook just died. The solution is simple.. just click on okay and try again, if it doesn’t work then re-start the phone. We Indians deserve a prize for inventing the ‘one stop solution’ of restarting the phone for any of our phone related issues.

(e) ..and of course the one of STORAGE FULL. Oh yes..if you’re going to download & open every video and image people send, you are bound to run out of storage space. The message on your phone now displays ‘unable to receive new messages’ and its NOW time to delete (..but by that time they are already attached to the videos and its a little hard to let go) They go about picking and choosing the not-so-good-don’t-mind-deleting videos. After some time,

“how many more videos to delete?”

“As much it takes to free up space I guess..”

There are plenty of more mobile phone related emergencies that crop up on a daily basis ..or simply new ones we’ve never heard of. Can you add to this list?

 

The Encounter

I have been watching a lot of movies of late, can’t help it when I’ve got an unlimited Internet connection that allows me to download unlimited data – why simply waste the good speeds that’s on offer? I am running out of external hard-disks to store them in though..

Okay so coming to the movie I watched ‘The Encounter’ another christian movie (watching a lot of those of late)

So what do we get in The Encounter? A road block, lots of rain, thunder, 5 Strangers at a diner with a man named Jesus. Ought to be a good movie you’d think. Surely why not? and it’s also got a message for everybody.

This movie at many levels will teach you a lot about your faith, and how at times even when we’re going through the everyday struggles that we do, God is there watching over us, how he intervenes and reaches out even when we don’t know HE is there.

The idea of meeting God at a diner was different and good to see in a movie, making the whole movie very personable and real. (Of course these things would never really happen in the real life but wouldn’t it be nice to imagine, what if it did?) Unlike many other christian movies this one shows us the reality of the various choices we are faced with and the consequences of them and also the constant battle we have between good and evil.

The best part of this movie is, you don’t even have to be christian to watch this film, its script is well written to attract all types of audiences of all ages. These are the kind of movies that need to be shown on movie TV channels (which unfortunately are never shown) That said, it is a very fine little movie and an hour and 30 minutes is all the time you have to invest in it, not too much considering the many hours we waste on watching rubbish on the Internet.

Other Movies you’d like to watch.. Grace Unplugged, The Shack, Letters to God, October BABY, Heaven is for Real, Miracles from Heaven etc…

Miracles from Heaven

This is a very human-feeling drama that’s still all about God’s priorities, God’s choices and God’s timing.

I couldn’t have watched a more beautiful film than the one I watched a couple of hours ago. The movie was Miracles from Heaven and though it was a film released  last year in March 2016, I only got to know of it while searching for ‘faith based movies‘ (to be exact with the keywords I used on google search) Having just finished watching a movie in a similar genre, namely ‘What if… God gave you a second chance? led me to see if there were other such movie similar to that.

It was said that the movie Miracles from Heaven is based on a real story that actually happened, a book was written by Annabelle’s mother which was later turned into the movie. I would love to get my hands of that book too, when I do.

The synopsis of the movie being: 10 year old Anna Beam lives with a rare, incurable disorder that leaves her unable to digest food. Despite the dire diagnosis, devoted mom Christy relentlessly searches for a way to save her beloved daughter. Everything changes in an instant when Anna tells an amazing story of a visit to heaven after surviving a headlong tumble into a tree. Her family and doctors become even more baffled when the young girl begins to show signs of recovering from her fatal condition.

I am glad I came across this movie, downloaded it and watched it. Definitely worth investing an hour and 45 minutes for the film. 

What was it that led me to this movie or even do the google search I did, I’m not really sure  but I guess sometimes you just do certain things that you aren’t really sure of. I’m not someone who is generally moved by watching a film, but then there are some that well.. just leave a lasting impression on you, like this one did to me

From the performances to the cinematography, it is a film well made. A special mention goes out to Jenifer Garner who shines in the role of a mother, definitely not an easy role to do but dos justice to it.

A definite tear-jerker. Do watch the movie if you get the chance.

If you want to watch another wonderful movie, by now I’ve got a list of them.. OctoberBABY – another must watch. I could go on.. on to watching my next movie now.

Are you Happy?

Everybody always asks if you have a career, if you’re married, if you have children. Like as if life is some kind of grocery list, but no one ever asks us if we are happy…

So true! Isn’t it? We aren’t trained to ask people if they’re happy. We just assume they are, or at least we think we can read it by their expressions. 

Think of it.. it would be a weird question to ask “Are you happy?” besides being a totally inappropriate question to ask someone randomly, it also stands as an incomplete question. happy with/doing what? Have you tried asking someone? 

We are born to be happy and that is all we focus on as a baby, a child and a teenager growing up. After that, we somehow lose the plot and happiness tends to elude us. But does it really? or are we now focusing on a different way of looking at what happiness means to us? Maybe now it means owning the latest iPhone or riding a car?

There is no logical explanation as to why some people are always happy while others are in constant search of it.

Happiness should be our default state of mind but we mess it up by becoming unhappy for silly reasons (best known to us) not realizing that happiness is within us and a conscious choice. It is a choice we have to make everyday when we wake up in the morning.. and it would help if we remember these facts..

We can’t really control everything

Our lives might turn out differently from what we planned or expected and that’s totally fine!

There will always be someone whose life is better than yours, that’s OKAY too.

We need to accept that our life is working out exactly how it’s meant to.

I’ve made some mistakes and I’ll probably make some more. It’s called BEING HUMAN

and of course most importantly

We can’t keep everyone happy

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You do know we all have happy hormones right? Like it’s said, its all in the mind – Brain to be particular.

 

 

..until death do us part

“I, ___, take you, ___, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.”

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The above lines are said as marriage vows in front of friends, family and well wishers in a church before the priest & God.

Let’s concentrate on the last 5 words of those lines for a moment:

…until death do us part”

Unless these last 5 words now have a different meaning, I don’t see any reason why marriages are falling apart and that too within the first 5-10 years of married life.

Aren’t all the checks supposed to be done before entering into the sacrament?

What I mean by checks is – In today’s day and age, if you’re getting married, there is most probably a checklist that you will be having and as per that checklist, all the boxes are expected to get ticked. Let’s see a few of those items on the checklist..

~ Bank balance

~ Moderate/Big House

~ un-interfering in-laws (or out-laws)

~ a servant/maid to do the house work

~ a couple of cars and bikes

~ no mistresses or stalker girlfriends hopefully

and of course he should LOVE, Pamper and treat me like a Queen (no harm in thinking)

This is how the mind of a modern woman works – at least for most of them. If a marriage is based on this kind of a foundation-YOU of all people should know, this isn’t even remotely what you can call a marriage.

I currently know of 4 couples, all friends of mine going through various stages of post-marriage-breakup (if I can call it that) ranging from within 2 years to 10 years for various different reasons. Talk of the lavish wedding receptions each one of them has had and the good amount of money thrown on one BIG PARTY, to be at the stage they are at NOW.

Have marriages come down to a checklist? or simply a platform to know how it feels to be married? No one seems to be serious. Marriage has become a casual affair.

Don’t people marry for Love anymore? 

It isn’t about “I want to get married” BUT “Am I ready to get married?”

The average lifespan of marriage has definitely come down from what it was. where a 50-60 years was normal in the 70’s and 80’s in comparison to today, where we should be surprised if a couple even touch 25 years together. 50 years seems like a distant dream, of course there would always be that odd couple who dream of growing old together.

Marry for Love and not just for companionship & make your house a HOME and not a convenience store. 

…and while I enjoy writing fictional stories on love & marriage, there are people out there actually getting married for real. While you get married only once in your life, make sure you at least make it worthwhile. 

Getting it right – 3rd time lucky?

How many takes does it take for an Online Giant like Flipkart to get an order right?

The item in question is a pair of black shoes, a size 9. The first delivery is sent with a size 6 (okay maybe they made a genuine mistake, 6 & 9 looking identical upside down) I sent it back asking for an exchange and I now receive a size 8 (this certainly could not have been a mistake) My footC--fakepath-shoes (1) still doesn’t get in. I go online again and send a request for another exchange – 3rd time lucky maybe?

I asked for a size 10 but in brown this time..what do you brrknow, they might send me a size 9 instead and I though the brown would look better. Let’s see what finally comes.

What part of a correct size do they not understand I wonder? I understand they had recently this big billion sale or whatever and had many dispatches to make..but to make mistakes like these?

Of course the delivery guy has a smile on his face every time he makes a delivery, he isn’t really bothered about how many times he has to climb up the 3 floors to get to my flat (super fit guy), he is only concerned about the feedback I need give him, which is of course always 5 stars, sweet fellow he is.

So, now its been two weeks, I find myself without a decent pair of formal shoes. I guess I have to wait another week for my exchange pair to be delivered. Talk of online delivery being quick!

Btw, what did you think of my choice of shoes? Better in Black or Brown?

 

Cultivating good personality traits

Being Assertive, Straight forward & Frank are such wonderful personality traits to possess in an individual, and I believe I might have traces of all these three traits in me. Not acquired at birth but through life’s wonderful lessons it has taught me thus far. I was anyway never a huge fan of diplomacy, a trait I saw a lot of in my dad growing up and hence started copying him, but then it got me nowhere. Being diplomatic, nice and few of the other gentle traits (that my dad possesses) is really not my thing, though for some reason I am still seen as the ‘nice guy’. I guess some things don’t leave you after all, as they become a part of you.

People need to be spoken to up-front (and some simply told off), else they don’t take you seriously. And that can only happen when you are being assertive in the way you speak and approach life in general, which I think is very essential in the world today, else people would simply eat you up. There are loads of people out there who are waiting to take advantage of those ‘nice people’ around, I call them ‘softies’

My dad is a great example of being tact, diplomatic and all the nice things in life (a softie). I wonder, like the power puff girls were made, was my dad too born with a mixture of “sugar, spice, and everything nice” 😛😛 he’s so nice that, if it was in my hand, I would award him a ‘Padmashree Award’ – like seriously.

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  • Ideal height between 5′ 6” to 5’8”
  • Boyish good looks (not in every case)
  • Normally found in Greys, blues, & whites (shirt colour)
  • Possesses a wonderful smile
  • A true gentleman
  • Highly adjustable character
  • Calm temperament
  • Passive nature
  • A genuine ‘softie’

If you spot a Nice guy, DO NOT be afraid to approach. Generally a tame and mild creature. This description could easily fit my dad. Well, he could be your dad too..or maybe it could be YOU.

If you are someone who knows us personally and compared us Father & Son, I’m like the cancer version of my dad and I really don’t even mind saying it aloud. People have even said it to my face “you’re so different from your dad” and I would just smile coz dad was around. It would have been a different response surely if they asked me when I was alone. What did they expect? A colour xerox copy?

Though I look up to my dad in many ways, I can’t see myself being another him, its more like taking the best qualities from him and creating a refined version of myself. That said, I think I’ve managed well so far and looking ahead, I will only get better.

To survive in this BIG BAD world, one simply can’t afford to remain a ‘softie’. We are in the 21st century and looking ahead, things are only going to get worse.

Lost/Misplaced something?

“I lost my keys” she said, expecting others around to help her find it

“If that’s the case, there’s no point looking for it then. its gone forever” her colleague said

“Whatt?? Cannot be, I just kept it on the table like 15 minutes ago”

“Oh you mean, you misplaced your keys?”

Not an ideal time for an English lesson you’d think…

Let’s start off by getting the definitions correct. Misplace is when we notice something is missing and start looking for it. Something that is misplaced is found, and something that is gone is lost, lost means Gone forever.

So for example you can misplace your keys and lose your mind 😛😛

Let me play out a scenario for you:

You’ve lost sorry misplaced your gold earrings and its nowhere to be found and you’re in absolute panic mode, frantically turning things upside down, maybe say a prayer or two.. or even go an eat a couple of almonds (what?? like you did not know it helps increase memory) Some might even google: I’ve lost my keys, what should I do?
People would do almost anything BUT stay calm. You’ve only misplaced it, not lost it.. as yet at least, so there’s still hope right? so RELAX.

What do we need to do? (besides panic of course)

~ Simply don’t look for it.. for a while at least. The chances are the more you look for it, the more it will elude your eyes. And of course your heart is racing, your mind is stressed. Not an ideal situation to be doing any kind of activity.

~ Remember the object isn’t really lost, most probably you are. The object is stationed at one place, you’re the one moving around 😂😂

~ The 3 c’s, remaining calm, confident and comfortable. You WILL definitely find it eventually.

~ You’re probably looking at it and can’t see it. Look once and look well.

~ It is most probably under something else, start by looking at such places.

Keys, jewelry, spectacles, earphones, pen drives are things that get misplaced almost on an everyday basis, so if you’re someone who goes through something like this often..this post will be helpful to you. That said, it would be good to be organized, everything goes back in their proper place at the end of the day so there is no such worry the next morning.

How about executing a few organisational skills at home? We all do it at our work places.

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And of course some people have BIGGER problems like:

Have a good day people.

Please find your way back home after work.

Someone smiled…

Someone smiled at me today.
I do not know who she is or where she came from
She must have been new in town,
I don’t remember seeing her face before.
What an amazing woman!
She smiled at ME.

Someone smiled at me today.
Her smile had a familiar warmth,
Did I know her?
It was as if her smile was trying to tell me something
but she hadn’t opened her mouth..
she continued smiling at ME

Someone smiled at me today.
Was this woman some kind of artist?
She stood at a distance at first ..as she drew closer,
I couldn’t help but look into her eyes.
It is was hard to believe what I saw.
She was now standing right here in front of me
and she was smiling at me.

It was a horrible day, it couldn’t have been worse
I was fired from my job, lost my phone & left stranded in the middle of the highway 

Yet I slept peacefully that night.
I couldn’t stop thinking…
That comforting smile 

Who was that woman?
Why was she smiling at me?
Where did she come from?
Where did she disappear?

Expressing myself..

I thought I always did.. express myself.. until of course I was told that there’s a difference between expressing feelings and expressing an opinion. Good point! Why didn’t I think of it before? Guess guys don’t pay attention to the small details, they just say stuff and move on, it takes a woman to sense these things and considering I haven’t been around too many women of late..  the feedback came in late.

It is in little moments like these, when my friends tell me how they perceive me as a person, the little details that otherwise go un-noticed, for it helps me make those small changes that helps me be a better version of myself.

I have always believed that I am a ‘Work-in-Progress’ kind of person, constantly making those small changes, not something you will notice if we interact everyday. I am definitely not the person I was when I was 25 nor will I remain the same when I turn 50.

I decided I needed to ask someone who knew me really well on what they thought of me as a person who always expressed himself, and who better to ask than mum, dad & sis and surprisingly they all had the same perspective, that I don’t really express my feelings in comparison to expressing a lot of opinions all of the time. So there it was, it finally dawned on me that I am different, I am not the average Joe. I am a class apart!

Something which comes naturally to people is not something that comes naturally to me.

I’ve always been that kind of person that would take the road less travelled, go in the opposite direction or end up doing something totally un-expected of me.

..and that is why people always want to know “what’s up with him?” Obviously, they won’t come up to me and ask, I’m sure by now they already know me quite well! For those who don’t..I hope I haven’t scared you, behind the tough exterior lies this warm hearted individual, that has built a strong wall around him and it will only take those special few to break it down and know the real ‘me’.