Lost/Misplaced something?

“I lost my keys” she said, expecting others around to help her find it

“If that’s the case, there’s no point looking for it then. its gone forever” her colleague said

“Whatt?? Cannot be, I just kept it on the table like 15 minutes ago”

“Oh you mean, you misplaced your keys?”

Not an ideal time for an English lesson you’d think…

Let’s start off by getting the definitions correct. Misplace is when we notice something is missing and start looking for it. Something that is misplaced is found, and something that is gone is lost, lost means Gone forever.

So for example you can misplace your keys and lose your mind¬†ūüėõūüėõ

Let me play out a scenario for you:

You’ve lost sorry misplaced your gold earrings and its nowhere to be found and you’re in absolute panic mode, frantically turning things upside down, maybe say a prayer or two.. or even go an eat a couple of almonds (what?? like you did not know it helps increase memory)¬†Some might even google: I’ve lost my keys, what should I do?
People would do almost anything BUT stay calm. You’ve only misplaced it, not lost it.. as yet at least, so there’s still hope right? so RELAX.

What do we need to do? (besides panic of course)

~ Simply don’t look for it.. for a while at least. The chances are the more you look for it, the more it will elude your eyes. And of course your heart is racing, your mind is stressed. Not an ideal situation to be doing any kind of activity.

~ Remember the object isn’t really lost, most probably you are. The object is stationed at one place, you’re the one moving around¬†ūüėāūüėā

~ The 3 c’s, remaining calm, confident and comfortable. You WILL definitely find it eventually.

~ You’re probably looking at it and can’t see it. Look once and look well.

~ It is most probably under something else, start by looking at such places.

Keys, jewelry, spectacles, earphones, pen drives are things that get misplaced almost on an everyday basis, so if you’re someone who goes through something like this often..this post will be helpful to you. That said, it would be good to be organized, everything goes back in their proper place at the end of the day so there is no such worry the next morning.

How about executing a few organisational skills at home? We all do it at our work places.

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And of course some people have BIGGER problems like:

Have a good day people.

Please find your way back home after work.

Games people play

Maybe you know it and not tried it

Use people vulnerabilities against them, its a pretty basic technique.

Everyone, is someone or the other’s weak point and if you need to get your work done, you just need to exploit it. No one knows any other way these days and its sad.

Sometimes you just have to play dirty, we live in a filthy world after all and there are some pretty disgusting people around.

 

Worry by all means but not too much..

We’ve all heard the song Don’t Worry be Happy¬†and we all get the message behind it.

Easier said than done, you’d think right!!

What’s for people to say¬†‘don’t worry, things will get better..’¬†Yeah right! like they know! Worries are part of life, if not for one thing, something else. For most people, there will always be things that they worry about, however big or small it may be

Below the two common scenario’s of WORRY

Marriage Worries

You aren’t married – ¬†worried

Married but no kids – very worried and society worried more

1 kid but still worried – a sibling for the existing one? How to raise the existing kid?
and it continues…

Job Scenario

No job – worried

Got Job but low salary – still worried

..it never end does it? this worry thing that people do all the time. I don’t think until now, ‘being worried’ has got us anything, besides one more thing to worry about ‘why am I always worried’?

Nothing good can come out of worrying.. leading to worse things like stress, making ourselves feel miserable and fat (you’ve got to admit when people are worried they either over eat or over drink or both in extreme cases,¬†which leads to getting fat)

Remaining happy too, requires a lot of practice. Not everyone can remain happy all the time, that’s true but then striking a good balance between worrying a bit but at the same time telling yourself, wtf! if its gonna happen it will, in the meanwhile lets just go about life with a¬†smile on our face – no point acting miserable,¬†people love to see that..

It is for a fact that no one really cares but for the courtesy question that they will ask;

“what happened to you, why are you so down?” and that question is sometimes enough for people to open the taps of what they’ve been going through.

Yes, its called sharing-but hey! You didn’t need to tell me everything. Did they really think they would get a one sentence answer? Its more like an open ended question. If you aren’t interested, why ask?

Walk around town and you’ll see some really worried faces, no one’s smiling, everyone’s walking around like they’ve got the whole world’s worries on their head.

Relax! Its not that bad! There are things far far worse!

Did you have a breakup?

Lost a job? 

Family problems?

Worried how you look? too thin.. too fat.. too short..

Unmarried, can’t find a suitable partner?

Seems like the whole world is conspiring against you?

Wow! seems like there are a lot of things to worry about, isn’t it? Its not like the world’s coming crashing down for you. These are everyday stories, nothing new.

Worried for these things!? Oh c’mon, take life in your stride and keep moving, things will fall into place gradually. What’s meant for you will come to you in good time. We just need to hold ourselves together.

 

 

Relationships

People come into your life for a REASON, a SEASON or a LIFETIME 

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When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that Person..

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with Guidance and support, To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an End.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire Fulfilled, their work is done.

The PRAYER you sent up has been ANSWERED and now it is time to move on. 

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

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LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,

Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional Foundation..

Your job is to accept the lesson,

and Love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other Relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

I have had all kinds of friends, I remember all of them, I miss some of them and some are truly special tho’ they’ve gone far far away.

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