One Life and many chances to get it right, chances to start over again… but unfortunately, when we do decide to.. we make that turn very late in life.
A few wrong decisions and you end up living a miserable life, however short or long it may be.
While today morning, reading the obituary of someone I knew, met up, had a few laughs and shared many a conversation with – is now no more. It doesn’t come as a surprise to hear of the news, having spoken to him for the last time on the 19th of December, he didn’t have anything positive to say.. he knew he had messed up big time and ranted for a while on phone of all the mistakes that he made in the course of his life until that day. For the first time if I can remember clearly, blamed himself.
It wasn’t something that anyone else could help him with, but a turn he HAD to make. He did say – he was willing to make that turn, even though very late.
23rd of December 2017 – the MAN IS DEAD. How? & Why? no one knows!
7th of January 2018 (today) the obituary notice is in the newspaper for everyone to read – a good 16 days later.
44 years of life. Messed up, Confused and Short lived.
Could he have lived a better life? Probably he could – if only he was willing to make that TURN earlier.
Hearing of people die is never good, especially if you know the individual personally.
He’s gone now! He didn’t get to see a New Year. Rightly so! His TIME was up! His work could be far from done on Earth.. but it didn’t seem it was good enough.
May his soul rest in peace.
We weren’t friends – more like two individuals who shared a few things in common. The one line he’d always say to me… “You’re a good guy Savio… but he’d never complete that sentence. Guess I’ll never know now what he always wanted to say, but never did.
I couldn’t stress more on MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICES
– the right company/friends
– the right life partner
and of course the right path.
Okay! So we’re in a new year. People are still wishing each other ‘A Happy New Year’. While all this Happy New Year thing is nice and all, it does get old pretty quickly.. as quickly as the first week of January.
So when do people STOP wishing each other a ‘Happy New Year’? My thinking would be by the 6th of January [the 3 Kings Feast (The Epiphany) – which signals the end of the Christmas season]. While that is all cool..what if someone comes up and wishes you a week after that? I’m gonna say Mid January would be the last I’m entertaining new year wishes… I don’t want to be reminded that its a new year after that.
I’m still receiving Merry Christmas messages from friends…on the 6th of January.
So, as the Christmas season comes to an end a little under 2 hours from now, I wish everyone a Happy New Year 2018 – for the FINAL time. Have a great one ahead! Cheers!
- A pigeon was stuck, entangled in a wire and struggled to set herself free in a building opposite the one I work in..
- 3 girls working in the office saw it struggling and made them visibly upset..
I wasn’t even aware of what was happening… until I was taken to the window to see the bird that was stuck. To make matters worse I could not even spot the bird. To my benefit, the two building were quite far apart, across a busy street in the city. I strained to look, even then I could not spot it.
After a while, I said, “Yes I can see it…” I lied, I didn’t want it to seem like I was the only one in the office who couldn’t spot the bird, which was true. Everyone saw it but me, and that too after wearing glasses – wow!
The pigeon was stuck on a wire in another building and here in the office I work in, were 3 girls who were very very upset.
After a while, I happen to look out in that direction through the window and I see a familiar face trying to rescue a bird… Yesss!! I can finally see the pigeon now (I was totally looking in a different direction) Its the guy from the office, who has gone to the other building, climbing over a balcony and rescues the bird.
He’s got a smile on his face – he’s happy, the bird is happy and the girls in the office are excited. The guy’s a HERO.
He comes back to the office to loud claps and cheers, the girls are obviously excited.
Humanity won! All I said was ‘Good Job Ralph!’
I could care less if someone told me that a bird was stuck somewhere, I mean who has the time to rescue a bird, right? Why only me? Anyone would have reacted that way – it was only a bird after all.
But NO! That pigeon mattered to those girls… it mattered to that guy. It is good to know that people actually have time to leave their work and look out for a bird stuck somewhere on another building… (being a Saturday did help)
I’m sure if the bird hadn’t been rescued, that girl would have remained upset all day… I guess that’s how a woman’s heart is…
Humanity doesn’t come from wearing t-shirts that say ‘Being Human’ but it is in the little acts like these..
This post is dedicated to some of the nicest people I’ve met.. in 2017
1. Tejal – (We first made contact in the December of 2016) but I’ll include her in this list of ’17, simply because it was over the course of this year, that we actually got acquainted more with each other, over some memorable hours of simply speaking English along with 3 other equally fun people, one of which makes my no 2 on this list.
2. Anjali – There are not many people like Anjali I’ve come across. She makes great company and a whole package in a little under 5’4” inches. She’s full of life and quite the fire-brand (if I may add) – A female version of me in more ways than one. English brought us under one roof.
3. Neharika & Sumati – Again, I’ll have to say it was language that got me a chance to get in touch with them. Genuinely soft-spoken English Trainers who I had the good fortune of meeting and interacting, especially Neharika who I trained under, for a few hours of TOEFL lessons.
4. Ashwini – ‘Right person at the Right time… that’s what I’m gonna refer to her as. A genuinely good person at heart and ever willing to go out of her way to help. Simplicity is her middle name. She’s someone I can call a friend definitely!
5. Rozzlin – Well, I’ve not really met her personally but have had the good fortune of exchanging more than a few Whatsapp msgs with her. For her, I may just be one of her followers on her Youtube channel, but for me, she is someone who I’d look up to for the sheer talent she possesses, in bringing joy into people’s lives (in character). I am sure she is as wonderful & genuine a person in real life, as she is as A. Maggy.
2017 in many ways hasn’t been a year I would want to remember too much for, but even when there’s nothing special I can find in 2017, there will always be these little twinkling starts shining for the year that’s going by…
While many of these people come from different walks of life… they all have one thing in common and that’s their simplicity, and that is probably why they make it to my list of ‘The Nicest people I’ve met in 2017″
I’ve not done for a very very long time.. so here’s one for the year-end 2017
Let’s call it the ‘Year-end Appreciation-Tag’
1. If God grants you an instant wish.. what would you ask for?
A one way trip!
2. How well do you know yourself?
3. What do you think about a bloggers meet up?
Why not!? Would love that..
4. If you could transform into any animal what would it be?
For a Day? – maybe a DOG.
5. Favorite book.
Yet to read a lot more to answer this!
6. Do you think true love exists?
Yes! I’d like to think so at least
7. Ego or anger? Which one damages the most?
Anger, I suppose. People can handle EGO
8. What do you want to become?
someone worth remembered
9. Do you believe that there would be a third part in the movie Bahubali?
I could care less..
10. Name one thing you do that always feels right.
Speaking my heart out! No matter how many people get hurt along the way. I’ve suppressed enough!!
11. Where do you draw the most inspiration from your blog?
- Everyday encounters & life in general.
12. Favorite country?
The one I live in, India.
13. What is a relationship breaker for you?
Not experienced much! But I’d say ‘distrust’
14. Would you ever take back someone who cheated?
15. If you’re in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone cheer you up?
Left alone, I’ll come around eventually in an hour or 2
16. Are you confidential?
Yes! In certain departments of my life
17. What’s the one thing people always misunderstand about you?
That I am a proud person, but you’ll know the real me only once we’re friends and that takes time normally.
18. What did your past relationship teach you?
I’ve just had one..it taught me good beginnings can often have the worst endings. That said, I’d still take it coz no one’s perfect!
19. What job would you be terrible at?
An Accountant. Seriously! What the ‘F’ is that?
20. If you could turn any activity into an Olympic sport, what would you have a good chance of winning a medal for?
Pen Fight or Carrom. I was a pro at it.. once upon a time. I am still very nimble on the fingers 😂
21. What would be your first question after waking up from being cryogenically frozen for 100 years?
I’d be surprised if I make it out alive!!
22. What have you only recently formed an opinion about?
That the world we live in, is nothing but an Illusion
23. What is the most annoying question people ask you?
‘How are You?’ I mean..what do they really wanna know?
24. What is something a ton of people are obsessed with but you just don’t get the point of?
Selfies.. its insane! Everywhere!!!! Why??
25. What one thing do you really want but can’t afford?
Travel around the world
26. What did you think you would grow out of but haven’t?
Forgiving! I’m working on that..
27. What do you wish your brain was better at doing?
Staying out of the ‘heart’ issues, it interferes too much
28. If you had to change your name, what would you change it to?
I’ve got a pretty cool name, so I’m good
29. What would be the most annoying thing to someone who has you as a roommate?
I am a little strict when it comes to rules.. and boy! Do I have lots of rules
30. Have you ever saved someone’s life?
Would walking out of someone’s life count?
30 Questions sounds like too much? Oh c’mon, don’t be a baby! You have 12 days to complete the tag. I nominate..
Pradita, I know you don’t like tooting your own horn.. but I’ve not tagged you in 1 for ages!
Aditi, make your comeback on WP with this post.. you posted last in June! That’s like ages ago!
Carol, how can I forget Carol-that too in the Christmas season.. Carol – Christmas Carols.. get it??
Janice, Let’s get back in touch..! Its been a while, hasn’t it!?
and Radhika, I’m not sure if you do Tags, but it would mean a lot to have your outlook towards some of the questions. Special offer for you, Pick the best 2 according to you and answer them 😛
And for anyone else who wants to try it out – go ahead!
That moment when you’re on the pot busy doing your stuff and your legs decide to fall asleep.
Earlier today morning, my left leg decided to doze off.. it went numb, making it difficult to stand up. Now, there aren’t many activities for your legs in the toilet that one can do… unless maybe draw circles with your toes counts for one kind of activity.. which gets boring after a little while
So after I got out, I googled “things to do when bored on the toilet”, I thought I’d make my next ‘sitting on’ a better experience. I was amazed that firstly people do google things like this and secondly some of the suggestions are quite helpful
+ Talk to yourself (this was a no-brainer) everybody does that I guess.. well, I don’t. I don’t have many interesting things to talk to myself about.
+ Tap out a beat on your lap or maybe on the wall besides you, you never know it might hurry things along.
+ Try a puzzle or a crossword. Not sure how straight your thoughts would be in there.. but worth a try I guess
+ Brainstorming time, not a bad place considering it is very quiet in there. Time for some new ideas, like this one for a blog post…
+ Poke your nose. Classic! You’re alone, time for some daily/weekly cleaning. No one sees you and you’ll get to wash your hands afterwards
..and of course letting those farts rrriiiipppppp!! + + +
So there you go.. nothing fancy! and here’s some on the way out
You’re breathing your last few breaths on the operation table with doctors doing their best to save you.. but its not really in their hands..
Do you have a little more of a fight left in you to see it through… back to life?
Its not that he’s never done it before..and surely for him and his girlfriend who are in two separate rooms with doctors working hard to save their lives, He knew he had to fight doubly hard for the both of them to make it alive. It didn’t look good.
He did promise her parents, he would bring their daughter back before nightfall and he was not one to go back on his word – of course there was just one problem, he didn’t know how long this would take.
What would it feel if you could overlook everything’s that’s been happening… from the outside but can do nothing about it?
Fighting between life and death, would time be on their side this time round? It was already more than a couple of hours in surgery by the time the families got to the hospital. It wasn’t really the time to know how it all happened but more the time to pray and hope for the best.
How could I let go, there were so many people here at the hospital who were praying for us.. as I whispered into my baby’s ears;
“we need to hold on Debra, we need to hang on for the people who love us”
It was after what seemed like the longest 3 and a half hours of surgery, did the doctor finally come out and say,
“You’re son’s heart is beating but with the help of a machine, the next 24 hours is critical”.
What did he care? What about Debra? How was she doing?
Every passing hour seemed liked forever, Debra’s mum and dad hadn’t moved from their seats, I needed to assure them that everything would be alright, their Debra would be fine – she would come back home. It was all out of a sudden when we heard on the intercom;
Paging Dr. Dennis, ITS AN EMERGENCY, Dr Dennis – Room No 411.
It was me.. the body that lay on the bed was not responding and the heart rate had steadily kept decreasing at a fast pace…did it mean??? My vision was getting blurrier, why couldn’t I see anything clearly any more? ..they were trying to keep me alive but I didn’t have any fight in me left.. but Debra.. I struggled to get to her room, I held her hands tight, closing my eyes –
“you’re going home Debra, you’re going back home”.
As a straight line showed on the monitor, the doctor turned around and said,
“I’m sorry, he didn’t make it..”
Down the hallway in room 402, there seemed to be activity happening there too – the patient was responding, so was her heart rate improving gradually.
For that mini second, it was an ‘all Allan-Debra moment’ there!
Welcome back Debra!
This was a dream I got, a few weeks ago.. I didn’t know what to make of it, so I thought the best thing to do, would be to convert it into a blog post. It lay in my drafts, until I finally decided to post it. The best part of it was, I woke up smiling..
You’re going to screw up! You’re going to mess up things around you.. shout, be shouted at.. think, act, react, over-react sometimes, feel sad, frustrated, happy, emotional, hug people, be hugged, kiss, (be kissed if you’re lucky), fight, compete etc etc, all this while going through a simple day!
Aren’t we a bunch of very busy people? Multi-tasking and doing so many things..
Life’s happening .. and however much we want to control the things we do around us, we are unlikely to even come close to fulfilling it.
We earn..to spend and save a little (if we can)
We fight..and make up (to only fight again)
We make mistakes …to be corrected & learn from them (for there are always new mistakes to be made)
So where am I getting with all this… nowhere really!
All I just wanna say is.. no matter what life throws at you, Embrace it…its not all going to be good, its not all going to be bad either, there are going to be moments where you want to pull your hair out too.. but then again life has a way of balancing itself out.. enjoy the good, learn from the bad BUT prepare for the worst.
The ‘Now’ is where we live.. so its okay sometimes if you want to stop everything you’re doing, close your eyes and just well.. breathe? Our minds are working non-stop, the least we can do for it, is to give it a little time off maybe.. for a few seconds everyday?
- We’re busy filling our pockets.. making money
- We’re busy filling our minds ..with constant thoughts
- We’re busy filling people’s ears ..with gossip
- We’re busy filling our stomach’s ..with food
Are we giving ourselves any time? How about dedicating time for yourself everyday Surely we can, if we only want to.. (..and that does not include coffee/bathroom breaks)
Yes! We’re a busy bunch of people and we’re only getting busier..
He was finally married.
The night had passed, it wasn’t as eventful as he had imagined it would be, considering they were both tired after the late end to the wedding reception.
However, the morning was here. He woke up with a smile, his now-wife Rekha was still sleeping next to him. Not sure whether to wake her up or not, he walked towards the kitchen, obviously very hungry (everybody knows the wedded couple eats the least at their wedding), he expected his wife to prepare a modest breakfast for him, but seeing her sleeping he realized, she must have been really tired herself.
He looked around the kitchen (probably the first time ever he entered one with the intention of making something) after a quick analysis of the resources available, he decided on scrambled eggs, a few slices of toast and a maggi preparation of the single maggi packet lying in the cupboard (to be shared obviously) The effort wasn’t bad considering it was his first time, the toast came out a little burnt (he preferred to refer to them as crispy) the eggs could have been scrambled better. The one thing that really came out good was the maggi preparation, he knew that very well. He put it all on a flowery quarter plate on a tray and took it to his wife.
He had never made breakfast for himself before, let alone make and serve another person on the bed.. (unsure what endearing word to use to wake her up.. he settled on her name) he woke her up gently, when she opened her eyes & saw that he had made breakfast for her, she shuffled around quickly and got off the bed. She had remembered the words she told her mom only a week before
“how romantic would it be if my husband made breakfast for me in bed” she smiled to herself at the memory and said
“You made breakfast? wow!” breaking out into a sheepish grin
She was still getting used to the fact that she was now married.. to her benefit, it was ONLY their first morning together and she had woken up late – Shit!
While she joined him in what was her first breakfast in bed with him, she bit into the crispy toast.. he looked at her seeking her approval on his efforts, she looked at him ..and they both laughed.
It might have not been the perfect start, it certainly was a crispy one.. as they both laughed their hearts out ..somebody still needed to finish the toast.