Tag: emotions

Good Question.. not quite the RIGHT answer?

I’m gonna touch upon it because I felt I needed to talk about it and however brilliant or morally correct that answer might have been – that the now, Miss World Manushi Chillar gave that night in China standing on the stage, was technically the WRONG answer to the question asked and she should have been disqualified.

The question asked was:

Which profession according to you deserves the highest salary and why?

Chhillar’s answer was: “Since I’m very close to my mother, I think a mother deserves the highest respect and when you talk about salary it’s not always about cash but I feel it’s the love and respect that you give to someone. My mother has always been the biggest inspiration in my life. All mothers sacrifice so much for their kids. So, I think the profession that deserves the highest salary, the highest respect and love should be that of a mother”

Now let me break down her answer for you..

her first line clearly says ‘highest respect’ instead of highest salary.. (which according to me is a rookie mistake)

.. and then she tries to get back on track by talking of salary and love and respect and inspiration etc etc, going off topic totally! (definitely a minus for me)

Lastly and most importantly, being a mother isn’t a profession. This makes her answer totally wrong.

But that said, we Indians have the ability of twisting the question and answering it in a way that makes us comfortable and appealing to the masses listening. And also we really can’t complain on the manner Manushi Chhillar framed her answer. In India, no question is ever dealt with a direct answer. We would need to first smile, prepare ourselves mentally for a couple of seconds, frame a little story around our answer and put it gently across to the other side. That’s Indian style!

I guess the judges were listening with their hearts rather than their ears.

I’m sure the Indian women who stayed up watching the live coverage of Miss World were in tears/emotional and touched by the answer given, for saying something about ‘Parents’ or ‘A Mother’ or a woman for that matter will always earn you some extra brownie points.. (making people emotional) in this case it won her the crown.

I didn’t watch the entire contest, so I really don’t know whether she was really good in the other rounds besides the answer she gave, that everyone loved and is being talked about even today in India.

Whichever way.. she is Miss World 2017 and India should be proud of her achievement. Well done Manushi Chillar.

Expressing myself..

I thought I always did.. express myself.. until of course I was told that there’s a difference between expressing feelings and expressing an opinion. Good point! Why didn’t I think of it before? Guess guys don’t pay attention to the small details, they just say stuff and move on, it takes a woman to sense these things and considering I haven’t been around too many women of late..  the feedback came in late.

It is in little moments like these, when my friends tell me how they perceive me as a person, the little details that otherwise go un-noticed, for it helps me make those small changes that helps me be a better version of myself.

I have always believed that I am a ‘Work-in-Progress’ kind of person, constantly making those small changes, not something you will notice if we interact everyday. I am definitely not the person I was when I was 25 nor will I remain the same when I turn 50.

I decided I needed to ask someone who knew me really well on what they thought of me as a person who always expressed himself, and who better to ask than mum, dad & sis and surprisingly they all had the same perspective, that I don’t really express my feelings in comparison to expressing a lot of opinions all of the time. So there it was, it finally dawned on me that I am different, I am not the average Joe. I am a class apart!

Something which comes naturally to people is not something that comes naturally to me.

I’ve always been that kind of person that would take the road less travelled, go in the opposite direction or end up doing something totally un-expected of me.

..and that is why people always want to know “what’s up with him?” Obviously, they won’t come up to me and ask, I’m sure by now they already know me quite well! For those who don’t..I hope I haven’t scared you, behind the tough exterior lies this warm hearted individual, that has built a strong wall around him and it will only take those special few to break it down and know the real ‘me’.

9 Pains Linked To Our Emotional States

Found this really useful, so copying the same from the website I found it from.

Everyone needs to read this and pass it on.  

  1. Pain In Your Head.

Pain in your head, like headaches, can be caused by stresses of the day. Take some time to relax and ease the stress every day.

  1. Pain In Your Neck.

If you feel pain in your neck, you may have trouble forgiving others or yourself. If you’re feeling neck pain, consider the things you love about people.

  1. Pain In Your Shoulders.

Shoulder pain may indicate that you’re carrying a heavy emotional burden. That’s where the saying “shouldering a problem” comes from. Focus in on some proactive problem solving and distributing some of that burden to other people in your life.

  1. Pain In Your Upper Back.

Upper back pain means you don’t have enough emotional support. You may feel unloved and unwanted. If you’re single, this may mean it’s time to go out on a date or two.

  1. Pain In Your Lower Back.

Lower back pain might mean you’re too worried about money. It may be a good time to ask for that overdue raise or consider a financial planner.

  1. Pain In Your Elbows.

Elbow pain speaks to your resistance to change in your life. If you have stiff arms, you may have a stiff life as well. Make compromises and shake things up a little bit.

  1. Pain In Your Hands.

Hand pain means you may not be reaching out to others in the way you should be. Consider making new friends, having lunch with a co-worker, and making a new connection.

  1. Pain In Your Hips.

Hip pain means you’re too scared of moving. Sore hips could indicate that you’re resistant to moving on and changing. You might be too cautious when making decisions.

  1. Pain In The Knees.

Knee pain can be a sign that your ego is a little too big and that you’re thinking of yourself a little too highly. Humble yourself. Spend some time volunteering. Remember, you’re mortal.

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High on Emotion

she kept reading
…as she watched him toss his cowboy hat on the floor and stride over, the feeling was overwhelming. She needed him, she needed him in a way she had never needed anything. She needed his hands on her body, his lips on his mouth…

(Looking at him)“you’re totally enjoying this, aren’t you?”

“the way you’re reading it…totally. Wait! I just have the thing” (he runs to the store room and is back in 10 minutes)

“Where did you run off to and what are you hiding behind you?”

(he puts on the cowboy hat and almost immediately takes it off and tosses it on the floor)

(laughing) “this looks familiar…but the cowboy has forgotten to wear his pants”

“Let’s just forget the pants for tonight my love” he said…

…as she put the kindle away and ran into his arms, indulging into a passionate kiss. It seemed as if the book was coming to life in that room.