Five ways to… Day 1


I’m really putting myself out there… aren’t I? 

Well.. am doing a 10-day challenge, the first task of which it asks me to mention ‘five ways to win my heart’. So here goes… brace yourself for some honesty!

Now to begin, my heart is one of the easiest things to capture. That said, it’s been 36 years and counting.. and it still searches for that other elusive heart it can synchronize its heartbeat with.

Getting to the task at hand: 5 ways to win my heart… 

  1. Simplicity: Going the simple way. Eating a vada-pao by the roadside over gorging a pizza in pizza hut. Richness, a wallet of many big notes, showing off are things that don’t impress me – definitely is not my style. Spending quality time with someone over spending quality money with someone. A simple girl with simple values, living a simple normal life. I am absolutely bowled over a girl who makes no special effort to make herself noticed. I will notice her even otherwise. Unfortunately, I haven’t met those kinds of girls and for those, I have met, they are either committed or already married.
  2. Highly communicative [In English – yes pls!] & gets along with the family: That means Father+Mother+Sister (the rest do not matter) and loves to talk (not to the extents of verbal diarrhea). As we grow older, the sex and all the physical proximity might diminish, but communication will keep us going. I love talking myself, but I can tire after some time…at those times I can keep quiet and just listen (we all know women have lots to say..and they can go on..n on.. n on…)
  3. Travel: Traveling gets me on a high, therefore it is understood a person that loves to travel is someone I will get along best with. Some of the most romantic moments happen during journey’s or in hotels or basically in any place that’s not your home. There’s something very relaxing about doing naughty stuff outside of the comforts of your home.
  4. While it may be a small thing… but to me, it is kind of a big deal. 7 letters‘English’. Blue, green, red English is a big turn off… Someone who can speak good English is a big turn on (of course along with the other good stuff) I have this urge to correct grammar when spoken wrong…I can’t live my life with a person knowing that the next sentence she speaks is gonna have lots of grammatical mistakes… aaarrrggghhhh
  5. I know I’ve mentioned this before but… the 4 S’sSimple, Sweet, Sexy and Specsy. Specsy is the NEW SEXY.  There’s nothing much I can do if my girl happens to have great eyesight, but there is something called a zero number – that works too. It’s like dating two girls in one/or married to two girls in one.

So that’s Day 1 of my 10-day challenge.

Next one tomorrow – Things I like and dislike about myself. Till then ta-ta Image result for waving hand gif

Our Support system…

You may not always feel the need for a support system or someone to turn to when things get hard, but there will be a point in your life when that’s all you need.

Extremely touched by the few words spoken by the Indian Captain Virat Kohli about his wife, at the post-match interview after winning the series 5-1 vs South Africa.

He says:

“My wife who keeps me motivated deserves a lot of credit. I want to thank my wife. She has been a huge factor. She deserves a lot of appreciation for it. She has been criticized a lot, but she is one person who kept pushing me”

Class act Mr. Virat Kohli, well said, very classy and he couldn’t have got any better platform than to say in on television for the whole world to watch. It got the whole world talking, within seconds of which it was trending on twitter like crazy!

Thanking his wife and pointing out that she often gets (unnecessarily) criticised when things get tough. Having a strong support system is important for everyone. We all need to know someone has our back. Happy that he has finally found his.

The Stranger Trilogy – Novoneel Chakraborty (Book Review)


Marry me, Stranger
I’m Rivanah Bannerjee, a young and independent girl living alone in Mumbai. My parents love me, my boyfriend adores me and I have a great job. But here’s the thing -my life is in danger. Someone’s been following me around, watching my every move, trying to get control over my life. At first, I thought it was a silly prank to gain my attention. My roomie suggested he must be a secret admirer. Is he? What he doesn’t know is the police have set a trap to nab him. Soon I’ll know if its simply a lovers obsession or there is more to it. BTW, I call him Stranger.
Enough 4 me to lay my hands on the book…
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For those of you who don’t know me yet, I’m Rivanah Bannerjee, a Kolkatan trying to find her footing in Mumbai. Even though I’m currently in a relationship with a great guy, I can’t help but miss my ex-boyfriend despite knowing that he cheated on me. But that’s the least of my worries. The stranger has gone missing since the police tried to nab him unsuccessfully. Where is he? What does he want from me? Why did he come into my life in the first place? Will he ever contact me again? These and many more questions continue to torment me every day. I’m desperate for the stranger to come back to me knowing fully well that he may destroy me forever. But then that’s the sexiest thing I have ever known about someone.
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I m Rivanah Bannerjee 23 F Mumbai. Some of you might already know how my life is on a razor edge. Those of you who don t just know this I may be killed soon . . . by the Stranger. I don’t know who or what he is, a ghost a person or a figment of my imagination? All I know is he isn’t just one thing, he is sexy and scary terrific and terrifying. What I don’t understand is why a young harmless girl like me who works in a big city stays away from her parents and has a screwed-up love life would be of any interest to him. Unless there is something about my own story that I do not know. In the hotly anticipated final installment of the Stranger trilogy, Rivanah will learn the answers to her many questions What is it that binds her to the dead Hiya? Who is the Stranger? Why has he been following her all this while? leading to an intense breathtaking climax.
I began reading the book. This is what I thought after I came to the end…

780 pages, 3 novels and 3 days later after having read all three parts of the ‘Stranger Trilogy’ did I FINALLY get to know who the stranger was. The author, Novoneel Chakraborty really keeps the reader wondering who it (the stranger) could be and the mystery that surrounds her and the stranger – connections and all.

One word – Phew!

After having read his first novel ‘that kiss in the rain’ a really really long time back (which was simply wow! btw) The stranger trilogy was a whole different genre that the author ventured into. I was very skeptical about purchasing the book at first, but after having finished all the 3 parts, I’m glad I did. He has done a great job. This guy had got some serious writing talent. Great going buddy!

As anxious as Rivanah (the main character in the novel) was to find out who the stranger was, I was equally waiting to reach to ‘that page’ where the revelation would be made. It was not until I completed 780 pages (over 3 books) to eventually get there.
I’m not sure why I always end up liking the main girl lead character in any book I read, but as messed up as Rivanah’s life gets over the course of the story, I like her a little more as I kept reading. There’s really no boring part in the book, it just keeps you going as a reader to know more & more.

However that said, I did not like a couple of things, which may be the author could improve on, firstly his language skills which need improvement (better sentence construction, phrase usage etc) it was good but can definitely be better and of course the intimate scenes between characters, could be explained or written in a more passionate/erotic/sensual manner. It felt more like ‘rough sex’ than ‘passionate sex’

The plot was wonderful and so was the story flow, keeping the reader engaged after every turn of the page. There were many characters which were fitted well at different junctions in the story which was really good. Character portrayals were to the ‘T’.
I would not to be able to point out a certain kind of category who would enjoy reading this book, but for anyone who enjoys a little mystery, a little love and a good read will have a great time reading the ‘stranger trilogy’.

Not sure the titles or the book covers quite matched up to the contents of the story but well… it’s the story that matters most, covers & pictures can always change.

I’ll give it a 3.5/5 rating. Overall happy with the purchase.

Rhythms of Love

  •  3 love stories
  •  1 emotion: LOVE
  •  A man who stood against it – Mr. Narayan Shankar.
  • …and for anyone who stands against LOVE there is always a Mr. Raj Aryan, played by none other than Shahrukh Khan (the undisputed King of Romance) 

Yes! I am talking about the movie ‘Mohabbatein’, loosely translated to ‘Love’ in English. While I always believe that the story is important for any movie to be successful, in this movie personally I loved the background tunes… and when I listened to that tune after almost 17 years. the day before yesterday, it brought back that wide grin to my face to evoke some wonderful memories. 


Who was your favorite couple?

Who was your favorite couple?


C’mon, we all aspired to be the kind of lover, Shahrukh Khan posed to be in his movies… failing miserably of course. Not sure about the girls (and their favorites), but all the guys wanted to have SRK streaks in them. 

Listen to the below tune.. and tell me if it evokes a memory!

Why even google even mentions Shahrukh Khan as a synonym of love. Can’t believe me? Have a look for yourself below:


In the words of the man himself, he says “I sell dreams, and I peddle love to millions of people” Do watch his TED Talk, it’s interesting how he goes about speaking to an audience.

If for some reason, you are unable to watch the video, the link is HERE.

Do you wanna partner?

Finding your husband in a boss…?

I’m not sure if its a thing in the country you live in… but at least in the place I live in, it is quite a regular thing.
The office receptionist or the ‘office girl’ as they refer to it in India, could well turn out to be the boss’s wife in a few years down the line.

So how does it work?

A girl comes for an interview, if she’s lucky enough, she gets selected; hopefully more for her work ethics than her looks.

Her duties in the workplace (read as Internet cafe’s, bakeries, ice-cream joints, book-shops etc..) would include handling cash inflow, interacting with customers and keeping the business up and running, coz who are we kidding? We all know to run a successful business, an attractive/semi-attractive female is required to welcome its customers right?
(read: men [big spenders]) She gets the customers coming in, the boss is happy and the cash register is constantly ringing. “Jackpot”, the boss thinks.. his heart begins to get warmer for his ‘right selection’ and decides to give a promotion to his ‘once upon a time staff-girl’ to now ‘wife’ status – just like that.

Boss’s have hearts too… right? what if their approach is different?

The purpose of this post is not to objectify women or anything of that sort, but to make ‘YOU’ aware – that a simple job offer could land a girl an unwanted husband. Beware of the ‘single’ boss, or as some people put it… the word ‘Single’ is just a word… more times than not, it is the state of the mind of a man. If he’s extra nice to you… who knows! You may be unaware BUT you’re on his trial period on what he’s actually looking out for – ‘a future wife’.

A simple job may just turn out to be a future family business!

Talk of different ways to find your life partner. While finding love at the work-place is the most common way of meeting your true love, some people have other unconventional ways of finding their love-mates.

I think I’ve seen enough to know the lengths people would go to getting what they want.

I haven’t had the privilege of working under a woman boss.. but I would believe it’s a different & better situation there? Or if I have to go by the Bollywood movie I watched (namely Aitraaz) wherein the woman boss is portrayed as aggressive (Priyanka Chopra), would make me think that women are equal to men in that area? or is it just in the movies?

..a little more fight left?

You’re breathing your last few breaths on the operation table with doctors doing their best to save you.. but its not really in their hands..

Do you have a little more of a fight left in you to see it through… back to life?

Its not that he’s never done it before..and surely for him and his girlfriend who are in two separate rooms with doctors working hard to save their lives, He knew he had to fight doubly hard for the both of them to make it alive. It didn’t look good.

He did promise her parents, he would bring their daughter back before nightfall and he was not one to go back on his word – of course there was just one problem, he didn’t know how long this would take.

What would it feel if you could overlook everything’s that’s been happening… from the outside but can do nothing about it?

Fighting between life and death, would time be on their side this time round? It was already more than a couple of hours in surgery by the time the families got to the hospital. It wasn’t really the time to know how it all happened but more the time to pray and hope for the best.
How could I let go, there were so many people here at the hospital who were praying for us.. as I whispered into my baby’s ears;

“we need to hold on Debra, we need to hang on for the people who love us”

It was after what seemed like the longest 3 and a half hours of surgery, did the doctor finally come out and say,

“You’re son’s heart is beating but with the help of a machine, the next 24 hours is critical”.

What did he care? What about Debra? How was she doing?

Every passing hour seemed liked forever, Debra’s mum and dad hadn’t moved from their seats, I needed to assure them that everything would be alright, their Debra would be fine – she would come back home. It was all out of a sudden when we heard on the intercom;

Paging Dr. Dennis, ITS AN EMERGENCY, Dr Dennis – Room No 411.

It was me.. the body that lay on the bed was not responding and the heart rate had steadily kept decreasing at a fast pace…did it mean??? My vision was getting blurrier, why couldn’t I see anything clearly any more? ..they were trying to keep me alive but I didn’t have any fight in me left.. but Debra.. I struggled to get to her room, I held her hands tight, closing my eyes –

“you’re going home Debra, you’re going back home”.

As a straight line showed on the monitor, the doctor turned around and said, 

“I’m sorry, he didn’t make it..”

Down the hallway in room 402, there seemed to be activity happening there too – the patient was responding, so was her heart rate improving gradually.

For that mini second, heartbeat it was an ‘all Allan-Debra moment’ there! 

Welcome back Debra! 


This was a dream I got, a few weeks ago.. I didn’t know what to make of it, so I thought the best thing to do, would be to convert it into a blog post. It lay in my drafts, until I finally decided to post it. The best part of it was, I woke up smiling.. 

The Epic Love Story

When it comes to epic, larger than life, mind blowing love, there is no topping..

Jack & Rose

Exactly 20 years and 4 days on [to this day].. and they still live on in our hearts. While we all thought there was enough place for Rose and Jack on that raft.. yet the film makers chose to have Jack die.. for their love story to be etched in our hearts forever. It also could have been a brain freeze moment for Jack considering he was in water with temperature of around 28°F and the mind barely works well in such conditions.

The scene was iconic: Jack bids Rose a goodbye, letting her stay safe on the raft as it floats away from the sinking Titanic, leaving his fate sealed in the icy waters.

That said, there are so many such moments & scenes in the movie, that leave the viewer to just “wow” at the wonderful film ever to be made. Personally, I might have watched it over 20 times at least.. but did miss out the opportunity to watch it in 3D, which I do regret [of course at that time it was for maybe a particular scene(s)]

Some of my most favorite dialogues of the movie would be.. [and maybe yours too]

Rose: ” Don’t come any closer , I’ll let go!”

Jack:”No you won’t!” 

Rose:”You’re crazy!”

Jack:”That’s what everybody says, but with all due respect miss.. I’m not the one hanging off the back of the ship here”

Jack:” Just give me your hand and I’ll pull you back over.”

Rose:” No, I’ll let go.”

Jack:”You let go and I’m, I’m gonna have to jump in there after you!”

Rose:”You’d be killed!”

Jack”I’m a good swimmer!”

Rose:”The fall alone would kill you”

Jack:”To tell you the truth, I’m a lot more concerned about that water being so cold.”

Jack: “I remember when I was a kid. Me and my father,we went ice fishing on Lake Wissota. Ice fishing is you know where you..”

Rose: “I know what ice fishing is !”

Jack:”Sorry. You just seem like, you know, kind of an indoor girl!”

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Jack: ”I got everything I need right here with me.I got air in my lungs and a few blank sheets of paper. I mean I love waking up in the morning not knowing what’s gonna happen or who I’m gonna meet,where I’m gonna wind up.Just the other night I was sleeping under a bridge and now here I am on the grandest ship in the world, having champagne with you fine people”

Jack: ”Hold on Hold on, keep your eyes closed..Do you trust me?”

Rose: ”I trust you.”

Rose: “I’m flying”

Rose: “Jack I want you to draw me like one of your french girls..wearing this”


Rose:”Wearing only this”

Jack:”Rose!.. you’re so stupid…Why’d you do that, huh?” You’re so stupid Rose! Why did you do that, WHY?”

Rose: ”You jump, I jump right?”

You’d think what kind of an insane woman would jump back on board a sinking ship? But that’s True Love for you!!

Rose – “I love you, Jack”

 Jack – “Don’t you do that, don’t say your good-byes.”
Titanic wasn’t just a movie, it was REAL. It feels that way, at least when I watch it. Ever since I watched the movie (& subsequent movies shot on board ships/cruise liners), I’ve always wanted to go on a ship cruise myself..let’s see when that materializes (if ever) 
What was your favorite scene/dialogue from the movie?

..until death do us part

“I, ___, take you, ___, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.”


The above lines are said as marriage vows in front of friends, family and well wishers in a church before the priest & God.

Let’s concentrate on the last 5 words of those lines for a moment:

…until death do us part”

Unless these last 5 words now have a different meaning, I don’t see any reason why marriages are falling apart and that too within the first 5-10 years of married life.

Aren’t all the checks supposed to be done before entering into the sacrament?

What I mean by checks is – In today’s day and age, if you’re getting married, there is most probably a checklist that you will be having and as per that checklist, all the boxes are expected to get ticked. Let’s see a few of those items on the checklist..

~ Bank balance

~ Moderate/Big House

~ un-interfering in-laws (or out-laws)

~ a servant/maid to do the house work

~ a couple of cars and bikes

~ no mistresses or stalker girlfriends hopefully

and of course he should LOVE, Pamper and treat me like a Queen (no harm in thinking)

This is how the mind of a modern woman works – at least for most of them. If a marriage is based on this kind of a foundation-YOU of all people should know, this isn’t even remotely what you can call a marriage.

I currently know of 4 couples, all friends of mine going through various stages of post-marriage-breakup (if I can call it that) ranging from within 2 years to 10 years for various different reasons. Talk of the lavish wedding receptions each one of them has had and the good amount of money thrown on one BIG PARTY, to be at the stage they are at NOW.

Have marriages come down to a checklist? or simply a platform to know how it feels to be married? No one seems to be serious. Marriage has become a casual affair.

Don’t people marry for Love anymore? 

It isn’t about “I want to get married” BUT “Am I ready to get married?”

The average lifespan of marriage has definitely come down from what it was. where a 50-60 years was normal in the 70’s and 80’s in comparison to today, where we should be surprised if a couple even touch 25 years together. 50 years seems like a distant dream, of course there would always be that odd couple who dream of growing old together.

Marry for Love and not just for companionship & make your house a HOME and not a convenience store. 

…and while I enjoy writing fictional stories on love & marriage, there are people out there actually getting married for real. While you get married only once in your life, make sure you at least make it worthwhile. 

All in a HUG Prime Minister, Mr Narendra Modi is on a hugging spree and to say the least, he seems to be enjoying it thoroughly too (Practice makes perfect)

I’m not sure as Indians, we’re very comfortable hugging each other, but can you blame us? We live in one of the hotter countries in the world, and hugging is not ideal in such humid conditions.

I’m not a very physical person myself, I mean the occasional hug is fine-that special friend, mom, dad, festivals etc – and besides who really cares to hug for more than the customary 4/5 seconds. Spontaneous hugs are pretty unusual. It’s not an Indian thing. We’d prefer a handshake over a hug or even a Namaste for that matter would do, shows our Indianness (sometimes also used as a polite way of saying ‘don’t touch me’)

One can’t hug another if they don’t know him/her, that would be just weird. Don’t hug for just the sake of it, give one if you really mean it

..a hug has got to mean something, it has to send a vibration to the other person. It has to show that you care about that person and that you’re genuinely happy for her/him to be in your arms.

else Just say ‘HI’ instead – that should be good enough. No Love lost.

Going by the above Image, I normally give the ‘half hug’ (no 2)

All said and done, this world needs HUGS. Too much of hatred being spread around, within family circles, friend circles, at work etc. I could do with being hugged, everyone loves to be hugged-and why not, it is one of the best feelings ever-it shows a connection, it shows love, intimacy, it magically transforms a simple ‘me’ into an ‘us’.

Well, if the Prime Minister of India is doing it, so can I right?

When was the last time you actually gave a hug like you meant it? Be it to your parents, a friend or even your boss (though that is very unlikely-who genuinely hugs a boss?) maybe your pet? I bet they’d be a lot of people hugging their pets when they get home while saying ‘hi’ to the rest, after they get back from a tiring day at work.

Mother’s Day

Like many of the days that are celebrated in the country and around the world, we have arrived on ‘Mother’s Day’ – today the 14th May 2017. A day when children change their FB and whatsapp display pics, with that of a ‘perfect selfie with mom’

I feel sad for these people.. if you really love your mom, the world doesn’t need to know about it, as long as she and you know. A relationship publicized is a show-off relationship, be it with your mother, boyfriend, husband or wife.

Love doesn’t need an advertisement!

The below pic has been doing rounds on social networks.



Yes this is the ridiculous truth, and many of such pictures are seen on Facebook.

Wow! What has the world come to!?