Tag: Women

Not-so-Incredible India?

1235Different states in India have already had their candle light march for justice for the heinous crime committed (rape) on an 8 year old, namely Asifa. My state [Goa] has had one over the weekend gone by. But that’s nothing new in India, is it?
Haven’t we had these so called marches or protests before – for Nirbhaya? Did it change anything?
My question is “What purpose does it serve?” Its not that the govt would do anything? Are they? There are petitions going around on social media.. how is that going to help? Its not that the life of that poor kid will come back. Just one of those things – people talk about and forget over the weekend.

Yes! as a nation we can do NOTHING. As ordinary citizens we can do NOTHING. India took 4 years to hang Kasab after he killed so many people in a terrorist attack in Mumbai. The Nirbhaya rape case, that took a lot of time for the supreme court to get to its decision. What does India need to think about so much?

India will never change – unless they put a law down on paper stating ‘immediate death penalty’ for rapists. But the country wouldn’t do it.. and you know why? Because the rapists are none other than ministers themselves, top police officers and public servants raping women and the govt feels the need to protect such asses. Hence nothing of this is ever gonna happen.

As an Indian, we are doomed.. forget the sex and age, male, women, children, babies senior citizens, animals to an extent… no one is going to be spared. The longer we stay in this god forsaken country [Yes God forsaken country], the more our lives are gonna be a mess. The situation is getting murkier and murkier with every passing day.

Keeping gang rapes and political murders aside for a moment etc.. India as a country, have they provided the basic needs to its  people? Have jobs being provided to the unemployed? [those are promises these useless politicians just make at speeches]… what about Education? Good health services? Clean air, clean water and affordable food? Are we as Indians provided that?

WINSTON CHURCHILL once said that if British were to leave India, the country would be in the hands of goons

..and boy! was he spot on! Looking back, maybe if we were still being run by the British, things might have been better, at least things would be better than what we are facing in these times by the goons running this country. No country is perfect, I understand. But a start has got to be made somewhere.

  • What is the use of having bullet trains in India when people are dying in stampedes at railways stations? 
  • What is the use of the PM of the country visiting country after country if he can’t take ideas from other countries how to better his own – in terms of judiciary, management and finance? …other than thinking about new trains?

We are doomed guys, we as Indians are doomed. We have to live through this mess. Not everyone has the opportunity to make a Portuguese passport and get out of the country. India, as a country is beyond saving now. 

And then there is also another part of me that thinks, in spite of everything, I repeat, in spite of everything India will survive. It will grow and it will flourish [how and in which direction not sure] It will lead [in corruption? who knows] There will be chaos, there will be riots, there will be killings ..but it will survive [of course screwing its citizens along the way]

I remember in class once when I put the sentence on the board ‘Advantages of being an Indian’ and turned back to look at my students for answers. I didn’t get a single one. Needless to say-that class didn’t go too well.

 

A Sign

“The baby kicked” she excitedly told Sarah, her best friend after the relatively longish dance session she had.. “not once but at least 5 times, it was like my baby wanted to dance too…”babe

“Wow! that’s so awesome babe! Am so happy for you”

“Actually the baby kicked while I was dancing with Barry”

“Barry-ex boyfriend Perry? What were you doing dancing with Barry? Where was Adam”?

“We’re friends and he asked me for a dance, I couldn’t say no.. and besides the baby has never kicked when I’m with Adam. The baby doesn’t seem very connected to him.. this wasn’t the first time the baby has kicked, it happened last week too”

“Tell me you were with Adam then..”

“Nopes, actually had met Barry last week for something that he needed to talk to me about, and he felt it too..I think my baby likes Barry too”

“What do you mean “too”, do you still like him? Wake up woman..what are you doing? Do you even know where you’re going with all of this”

“Don’t you think it is a sign..”

“What kind of sign Cynthia? You’re married and pregnant with your husband’s baby and what signs are you looking for?.. there is nothing out there”

——– silence ———–

“Ouch!..the baby kicked again see…”

“..but Barry isn’t here”

“yaaaa but we’re talking about him…see?? A sign…

The Modern Woman!

The modern women behave very much like men – and its pretty disgusting!

What has happened to the women who act like women, or at least woman-like? What happened to being a strong, yet feminine, woman? Women don’t really understand the dynamics of masculine and feminine anymore. Has the female gender suddenly taken a turn for the worst? The woman of today is a slap on the face of humanity!

You got to be ashamed to call yourself a woman!

I don’t even want to get started on what women do, how they act and what they speak nowadays. Plain Disgusting! 

I can’t see the difference between men and women in today’s world. Who is bad? Who is worse of the two? The only way to look at it is.. that we’re living in a world of some highly undisciplined people, be it at work places, while traveling or simply the everyday interactions we have with different people.

That said, I can’t put all women in that category. At least out of every 10 I personally meet and get to know, there is always that 1 rotten apple amongst them. 

So if you count yourself to be among one of the 10 most recent women to have entered my social circle in the last couple months or so… and you’re asking yourself;

could he be referring to me?”

You bet! You are definitely the one! 

 

The Question:

The most terrifying question a woman can ask a man is: 

“Notice anything different?”

Do not look at the obvious places. I repeat, DO NOT LOOK in the obvious places. She hasn’t done anything there 😝😂

For all you know, it might be the tiniest thing she has done and something we would never notice.

“Where do I look?” “What do I say?” 

…she’s looking towards you looking for an answer, time is running out and you start the guessing game – hoping you get one answer correct

“You got a haircut”      ……..no she hasn’t emo

“You did your nails”       ……..she’s pissed now. You’re not paying attention

“You bought a new skirt”     ……..she starts accusing you how an insensitive man you can be.

She knows you’ll never get it and finally says “I did my eyebrows, how could you not notice!?” 

Damn! I was so close! 😝

 

Proud to be a woman? Are you?

So yesterday was International Women’s Day. An answer I’ve always wanted to knowzzzz.jpg was, Do women actually feel proud to be women? Do they feel special on a day dedicated especially to them? Or is just like any another day? What’s it to be a woman? I needed answers not because it gives me chance to create another blog post (that too…) but more so because there could be no better topic for men to talk about than ‘women’, well ‘sex’ too… but then I guess in many ways, both of them are related.

As early as 6.30 I started sending out messages to all the girls/women I knew, wishing them on ‘their day’ with the following message…

Happy International Women’s Day, it must be pretty amazing being a woman ryt?

You know how sometimes a simple question like that can spark more than a few lines of a response… some did while others had to be asked an extra question “What does it feel to be a woman?” I must say the replies did make me smile, considering I know so many different kinds of women. While some of them replied in a few words, others went more the paragraph way. Brace yourself to reading some of the answers I got.

The very first of course was a total shocker! I was like 

“I wish I could be a boy, it’s stupid, bullshit to be a woman” – Yes ma’am, I’d like to know more… over a cup of coffee 😝

Another friend of mine… real ballsy character, she has to say “One word.. in India – Oppressed. The very fact that we have a special day to remember us, is saying a lot about the state of women. Not only here. All over the world” – I would say I agree with her.

“I feel proud of being reproduced, feel strong even after being judged, feel happy that we work equally to guys” – signs of the changing woman attitude? Bodes well for the future!

“Being a woman…
Growing up there wasn’t any difference thanks to my upbringing yes except my night outs were thoroughly interviewed b4 getting approved
Dating was fun all d attention
After marriage reality starts to sink in.
Husbands lifestyle friends and family is now mine. And my real family friends take d back seat…
after childbirth (the greatest responsibility of all) husband. Lifestyle. Family take d back seat and the ones on backseat go further. Except for the immediate family… who come back in the front seat to help out.
womens-stagesThere is always a choice but sometimes being a woman it’s best to accept and enjoy the privileges of being a woman…
You’re the ‘go-to’ person for your children just by giving birth to them. Whereas the fathers have to make a real effort to be on par with the mothers. Just the sound of mom’s heartbeat or the breath or even hearing my voice wud pacify my crying babies… what a blessing. And being a woman the amount of physical and mental and emotional strength u have surprises u. – Talk of a woman’s journey, beautifully expressed! I appreciate the time my friend took to type this all out, considering we’re living in such a busy world.

It must be pretty amazing being a woman right? “Not always…! But we have our perks😄” 

“I wouldn’t know if it’s being a woman or being alive. I haven’t experienced being alive as the other gender. It’s amazing being alive though! I’m not for all the gender stereotypes. I think men and women both have their roles to play and both genders have to overcome hurdles. Women don’t do anything great to have a day to celebrate.

Traits should be celebrated instead. Determination day- Share a story or 2 of your friend showing applaudable determination. Wouldn’t that encourage people to get aligned rather than just celebrating women’s day?

There are so many women that feel great on this day just to be women. Such a false sense of satisfaction to nothing achieved. I don’t think these days are planned right at all.😋

  Something to think about I guess. Now that’s my kind of woman! Such strong thoughts. Pity that she’s married already 😝 

“Don’t know Sav.. never been anything else before” – She’s got a point there! 😝🤪😂🤣 What she said next just floored me “If I have to put it in one line I’d say to feel like a woman is to feel every adjective that’s ever written on every language across the world at any given point in time or maybe sometimes at a single point” – I really didn’t know what to say to that.. that is probably the best sentence I’ve read to date, easily!

“Wo+ men combination of the two makes a complete word ..the latter, of course, follows the former …n that’s what being a woman is, let the men literally follow you as an example!

klWoo +man is a complete another example when a man is wooed by you…he should be wooed by a what a rockstar you are in yourself, a spectacular example of simple yet with a great sense of style, enveloping the true virtues n values which in my terms mean fire in heart n sparkle in the eyes ,all set on your goals like the fisheye for lord Arjuna ,that is what the essence of a modern women is in this free country .. where are woes of man are much more than they woo a woman in terms of the personality she carries..a woman can fly but fly as long as she is flying equal to them ..the moment she rises higher, above n over ..the woes begin and the wooing ends there!

Being a women is empowering in itself..
a creator of life ,a nurturer, a boon balancing artist all her life in the ways she juggles with life…she is a true juggler ,we keeping everything safe even when its up in the air she knows she is gonna catch it right there…that’s the fire, that’s the assurance, that’s the confidence, a sense of security, a sense of freedom when things fly high ..yet the balance is the true essence of being a woman” – Well!! that was long but yes, excellent thoughts! I did tell her that I’ll need a day to let this message to sink in.. I still have a few hours left

For me being a woman makes me feel the power . I’ve got control of so many things in life. It makes me feel strong, beautiful and sexy. – You go, girl! That’s short & crisp!

I feel proud to be a woman because a few things come naturally to women as compared to men. Like the power to empathize, the giving nature and a relatively high emotional quotient. Not that men do not have it… but it comes to women more naturally. The biggest blessing of being a woman is able to give birth. This is so unique that no man would ever be able to do it. My advice to women is that do not get into gender fights. No gender is superior or inferior. If you feel women are strong then don’t crave for mercies from men. Secondly.. do not wait for a single day to celebrate womanhood. Celebrate every day. Be good, do good. Pamper urself. Love urself. Every single day!! – Nice. I liked the reference to the men made, well said. Another thing that women possess.. the right words – at the right time. Thank you for answering.

“…well I feel so proud being a woman … to be said its also pretty tough to be a woman”  something I guess, we guys could never even begin to understand.

That was a handful of responses I got to whom I sent out the question to.. thank you, girls/women, for your co-operation, it was wonderful to know your views.

We, men, will never understand what it means to be wooed, whistled or ogled at… and if we look at it at a more superficial level.. as Joey Tribianni puts it across in an episode of friends;

You know what blows my mind? Women can see breasts any time they want. You just look down and there they are. How you get any work done is beyond me. Beyond me too bro!

Mood swings to being the center of attraction, sexy-confident & vulnerable at the same time – wow! Facing pain with a smile on their face. We’d never know how they do it. I’m not sure if men really want to know too… guess we’re happy with the issues we have, that is if we can really call it issues.

As much as it took me a long time to compile this blog post, the longest one I’ve done till date I guess – but with women, things are bound to get extended. I enjoyed putting this together. It was fun. Hope you enjoy reading this, male, female irrespective.

So what did I learn from the little interactions I’ve had with all the above women…? I’m truly blessed to have so many friends who are girls, especially the one’s I’ve mentioned in this post. You women are simply super! …and also I’m happy being a guy, I’d do terrible as a girl – PERIOD!

 

A Pad, A Man & a whole country!

 

A Sanitary PAD

 

PADMAN – the movie release date of which is tomorrow 09.02.2018 and the whole nation is already going crazy.

AND I’m not sure if its because of the concept or for the actor or simply because it’s easy to see and not talk about it. We all know what the movie is about and everyone’s excited about it, men, women, children.. even Ravi Shastri (the Indian Men’s Cricket team coach) who is in South Africa at the moment seems to be interested/excited whatever!

And what’s this all about the PadMan challenge & clicking a pic with a sanitary pad to bring menstruation into the open – on social media?

India has gone bonkers! BIG TIME!

I read on Facebook yesterday that “Ravi Shastri tagged Indian cricket team captain Virat Kohli and tennis player Leander Paes to take the PadMan challenge” I had to research a little bit to find out, what the PadMan challenge was all about to know what it meant.

This is going way out of hand really! What’s the BIG deal?

Yes, we all know what menstruation is, we understand what women go through every month… what’s to bring out in the open? Akshay Kumar goes one step further saying; “Somewhere it is a man’s fault, and somewhere it is not entirely, because it is a subject like periods which was not discussed in our homes from the beginning….”

Now, what did we do? 

My question is:- Why is a country like India so obsessed with women-related issues? Be it Menstrual health/hygiene, mention-of-mothers at beauty pageants, women showing a bra strap, a women’s cleavage or simply what a woman’s choice is? Or even why Smriti Mandhana is so cute? 😝 (the last of which even intrigues me)

I will be going to watch the movie as it releases tomorrow and you can be sure to expect a post about what I thought of it. Pads, menstruation, periods or a simple pink underwear, whatever it may be, that they show in the film tomorrow.

I will have an opinion..and you’ll know what it is, RIGHT HERE on the extra..aaamile.

Pretty Secrets

logo  A jazzy name for a Lingerie store, I’d say. A venture run by a friend of mine and her sister together, the store deals with all women’s (if I may add fancy) innerwear. She, of course, invited all her friends and near and dear ones to visit..and why not, if each one of them could pick up even one item, the sisters would be more than happy. We all know how competitive female clothing rates can be nowadays.

 

2 months had passed when I visited the store, a couple of days back, when I happened to be passing by to go elsewhere, on returning back the same way, I decided to go in, unsure if was a good idea but finally gathered the courage to enter. Why courage you’d think? What courage would I need to enter a store? For starts, this wasn’t ANY store, this was a lingerie store, for women. I’ve never really entered into a store like that before, until that day of course and besides even if I did enter one before, I wouldn’t know what to do in one.

This is what you see from the outside if you visit today (minus the balloons of course)

 

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Impressive! Definitely a lot of Pink.

 

Now let me tell you about Pretty Secrets, when a guy enters into a store like that… it suddenly feels like 3D in there, everything is right there staring at your face, whichever direction you look in – its there!

 

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The view from the back

 

Now in normal circumstances, I would be really amused (I was, I really was…dazed to say the least) by the different colors, designs, shapes etc (as guys always are – guys go by sight) but I maintained a straight face well almost a straight face looking straight into the eyes of my friend while talking to her, looking nowhere else. Well, there was a fleeting moment when I was trying to recollect something and I shifted my gaze from her eyes to well…… a bulb on the wall.

As normal as any store owner would ask a potential customer who enters the store

“Why don’t you buy something for your girlfriend?”

Yeah right! I said to myself. I smiled (I think I did) technically I would have to have a girlfriend to buy something for her and besides nowadays gals like to buy their own stuff, at least when it comes to innerwear and besides it gets a little tough when it comes to sizes, you really can’t simply ask your girlfriend

“What’s your size honey?” that’s pretty rude…

and it’s not like the sizes nowadays come in numbers. Its all in X XL & XXL and cups which I understand very little about, so it’s basically Greek to me.

I never quite knew that women dress up so exotically from the inside too, I mean it’s all getting covered and no one actually sees the good stuff but then I could be wrong. Its more a mind thing I guess, girls dress to feel sexy if I am to believe. Talk of being spoilt for choice at Pretty secrets. The store owners (the 2 sisters) are pretty jazzy themselves.

I promised I’ll visit again, hopefully next time with company. What next? Maybe a beauty parlor? When is a friend of mine going to open a beauty parlor of her own?

Pretty secrets isn’t a secret anymore. The secret is out.

Step in for a change and come out feeling pretty from the inside. It’s a secret! 

P.S: I have not been paid for this advertisement.

 

 

‘Arrogance’ & Models

Does getting into a career like modelling make the model ‘automatically’ arrogant?

Are all models arrogant by default? [referring to female models]

Is it the arrogance, that leads to a career in modelling, or the other way round? Surely some women have exceptional-to-great bodies, they need to look all chic and elegant on well…almost a daily basis. But seriously, what’s the deal? At the end of the day – she’s still a human being, still a woman, a sister, a daughter..some cases even a wife. Or is it that the ‘arrogance part’ is only reserved when she is in the model avatar? Not sure!?

More than calling a model arrogant, I think it’s their photographers who are the real shit people in the background (to use the Indian word – the assholes). While some of them are extremely professional and really good at what they do, others (or as I call them road-side clickers) are just in for the fun – these would be the real assholes. I have come across at least a couple myself. I’m always of the impression, no specific photographer can make a model look good, it is the quality of the camera that does it and maybe a few words of encouragement, and that encouragement needn’t come specifically from the man behind a lens.

Having attended a fashion show just yesterday, at a college fest, the stuff that the models have to put up just to impress judges, from the walk, to the costume, oomph factor..and what not that goes on behind the scenes.. all this for what? – a few points, claps and whistles?

While I agree, getting into this industry is very glamorous, however I am not a great advocate of people parading up and down a ramp to show themselves off.

So, what made me go to see the fashion show yesterday at the college fest, you’d ask. I was told it had a theme and I’ve always loved activities which are theme based from theater to dances or a fashion show for that matter. The theme for the Fashion show was Zodiac Signs, with each student presenting one Zodiac sign and it was lovely to see the creativity that went into the costumes and depiction of each Zodiac sign, which impressed me the most.

You must also know..some time ago, I was instrumental in stopping one such Fashion show for an Institute, on the mere argument that “my students weren’t not objects to be paraded up a ramp with no direction, theme or anything of that sort” and moreover when you had the chief guest, a priest and the Institution was a catholic one.

A Goan’s word prevailed over a malyalee’s (both of us teaching, in-charge of different departments) where he said – so what? It’s only a fashion show ryt!? Only a fashion show!?? It’s never JUST a fashion show.

Making a difference..

We all know that the presence of a girl/woman in a man’s life, brings about a whole radical change to his world. It is almost like a man changes from cave man status to being a gentleman.

So what is it that a woman has, that brings about this change? While I think that men bring a lot of stability, Independence, protection and physical intimacy into to a relationship.
Women bring so much more..

Compassion along with Empathy: The many ups and downs in life that we have, there is no one better to be sitting alongside you at times like this. We are known not to ask for emotional help when we need it, but a woman understands and she’s there for you, even if you “think” you may not need her.
Who do we normally call when we have a problem? Mom, girlfriend, wife etc…? There you go! All women!

Beauty: Women are truly beautiful. Men work on the ‘sight’ principal and every ounce of a woman’s body radiates beauty, be it her eyes, her smile or simply the way she conducts herself. A woman has style that no man can ever match up to. (I seriously don’t know why I’m in this mood of praising women so much today, it’s not even women’s day 😎)

Ever entered a bachelor’s flat..let alone reach his bedroom, the hall itself will tell you a story. Women are able to add a “woman’s touch” to transform that space. They make a house, a home. They’ll bring in plants, paintings of flowers, pets and a lot of love. The man is no longer in-charge, the woman has taken over.

Support: A woman will always support her man, we need someone to tell us that we’re doing a good job and that we’re good at what we do (which they may be lying sometimes, but that still makes us feel good – so it works)
She has a suggestion to every problem, she’ll give you that extra push if needed and when you’ve done well…she’ll go ahead and celebrate it with you too.She puts YOU before herself..who does that nowadays?

A woman just knows what needs to be done..for example, today she needs to bake a cake or clean the closet or she’ll organize some stuff to keep it neater, so things can be found easier. Women make their partners feel special. There are so many more things that a woman brings into a relationship, into a man’s life that makes his life better, one can’t just simply restrict it to one blog post.

Why am I writing about this, a totally woman-centric post on MY blog? Maybe, its just a way to say a ‘ThankYou’ to each one of them who has made a difference in my life, I’ve had so many…in the form of friends, colleagues and some very special ones too. This one goes out to each and every one of them.

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Compliments

It is certainly not an easy thing to do for us guys because…there is no telling how a woman is going to react to a compliment.

She could..

            get angry

                       or  irritated

                                      maybe happy

                                                        or interested 

                                                                         or simply thankful

but one thing you can be rest assured, no matter how she reacts at that moment..you’ve made her heart smile..from your sister to your wife, every woman enjoys a compliment.

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Girls be like this 

 

Knowing how to compliment a woman is important, especially if you’re trying to leave a lasting impression. After all it does show that you care enough to notice the woman on how nice she really is. Compliments aren’t always about physical appearance, however good or tempting they might seem

How does one know that a compliment is sincere? 

Let’s say, the very instant you lay eyes on her and the first thought that comes to your mind, as long as it’s not overly sexual, it’s definitely a truthful and sincere compliment. Of course these things cannot be planned before hand, one would have to go with the flow 🙂

Do women compliment each other? Men certainly don’t.. 😊